So my boyfriend calls me ugly all of the time?

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He calls me ugly to my face(which is better than talking trash) and I would like to know some beauty tips.I do wear make-up so I'm not a complete total dumb girl.Foundation;Loreal Superblendable liquid foundation.Eyeliner:Maybelline liquid eyeliner & NYX black eyeliner(I apply a thn line on bottom) and lip balm which varies.I do wear girls clothing,I don't over do it,I vary my hair styles,and straighten my hair because it's naturally curly.And I guess he feels like crap cause all of his friends girlfriends are really really beautiful and then he has...me hah,so,any tips?I'll ask the girls for tips and to help me out,but I just want more.Like general tips.He's my first boyfriend so I'm not sure what guys like besides boobs and a**.Thanks in advance

Sweet_tooth_lover18 · Accepted Answer

Best answer. Short and sweet. If a couples call each other down what's the point of being together. Couples are together because they WANT to be together. They feel free, happy, COMPLEMENTED, both thinking "am I really going out with this person?" they help each other with stuff. If one person if feeling fat, the other should ether say "no your not." or "then lets go to the gym together" and help with better food options. Sometimes its not all sunshine's and rainbows, there are tough times but they get though it together. But never under any circumstances stay with someone who talks down to you. It will never get better if they don't like you anymore. Split it before it gets worse. Just asking for beauty advice for a guy means you know all he wants is something to look at.. Trust me. In a world full of twigs with big boobs with pin straight hair of bouncy locks its hard to tell what real and what's photoshop.

as sa230e said "He's an ass. Leave him."

here let me help you. the next time he calls you ugly then tell him that "if you find me ugly then why are you with me?" if you get some lame excuse like "don't be like that." or "because I love you." ask him "if you find me ugly/unattractive for you taste what do you like about me?" I know everybody hate to be in the spotlight if he really does love you he with give answers about who you are, what you like and what he loves about you inside and out. if he can only think of 3 pitiful answers . then "He's an ass. Leave him." who cares about his friends. if they like you for you, thier for friends too if not they were just playing nice. I know its hard(believe me I know) but you feel so much better later when you hang out with friend who really care about you. They will try to get your mind off him becasue they know you are better then that.

remember he called you ugly more then once. you never know who is calling you beautiful without you knowing. You can do better then him.

if I can find a guy who loved me for me: a person who is honesty couldn't care (unless special occasions) an is too lazy to wear make up, who likes her natural curly(sometimes fuzzy) hair. Who, if I look sick or horrible, try to make myself find some natural remedy to fix it (facial message for pink cheeks, cold wet cloth or cucumbers for dark circles, natural face products, etc) I don't have the greatest fashion sense (I'm getting better), I'm a very hygienic person. And you know what? I wouldn't have it any other way. He loves that about me. If somebody like me could find a guy you should too.

Dump him. Find someone better for your time. You deserve more. (in the meantime you could do hang out with friends your boyfriend might have kept you apart or start a new hobby you've always wanted to. Dance the night away at a club, take a class, travel somewhere, do something that you like to do,) you never know where you might find somebody you likes you for you, inside and out.

Good Luck Beautiful.

Sachie · Accepted Answer

so I understand that he is your first boyfriend, and you just want to make him happy. I still, however, don't think he deserves you if he's going to be so mean to you. it's one thing to THINK that you are ugly inside his mind, and just appreciate you because he sincerely likes your personality. but if he's actually saying it to you, which no boy who really liked their girlfriend as much as he makes you think would, he is no good.

without being stereotypical, that's the way I see it. just telling it like it is. if your boyfriend isn't treating you like a princess && with all the kindness and respect in the world, he is just not good enough for you.is HE physically perfect in everyway? since he has imperfections, he shouldn't be complaining about your appearance!

you must be pretty, otherwise he would not have started going out with you in the first place. it's possible that he's just grown bored with you and likes somebody else but feels too bad to dump you so is insulting you because he resents you because of that fact. or he could be trying to get you so offended that YOU will break it off with HIM. then again, maybe he's just an ass (best bet). do your hair or get it done (use straightening/heat protecting serum for shine, a curling iron so that you get really nice big curls or straighten it. use product if you're not already). use proactive and take your makeup off every nite, use heavy moisturizer so your skin isn't dry through your makeup, which proactive tends to do. for makeup first apply cover up to hide bags then to the rest of your face. I would start using powder instead of liquid, because it looks less heavy duty, but still covers blemishes. apply a little bit of toner right for your skin tone in a sweeping C from your forehead to your cheeks. put a small amount of black eyeliner on your lashline on your upper lid, it looks way better, then do makeup (natural colours are nice, earthy tones, white brings out blue eyes, pink for brown,whatever. make sure to BLEND. that's the secret.)

then use mascara (make sure your cosmetics aren't past their due dates, or they'll work badly and give you acne.) a LITTLE bit of blush on the apples of your cheeks. basic hygiene, get your eyebrows done if necessary.file your nails and put on tons of hand cream daily. go for the sophisticated look instead of the casual/emo/what everyone else wears look if that's what you're doing. shop at jacob, they have rly nice clothes there :) then, if he's still mistreating you, or once you realize what a douche bag he rly is, dump his ass, show up somewhere you know he'll be in a bangin red dress, hair in a messy bun or down, makeup done perfectly, and let him see how gorgeous you are and that other guys will be checking you out. even bring a guy with you, he'll regret the way he treated you. but don't forgive him too easy, if at all, or he'll do it again.you don't need surgery, just my advice.and he needs to grow up--those girls are prettycuz they're confident.

peace-love-couture · Accepted Answer

Before all of the cliche and pc people on here come and answer and tell you that you need to dump him,he WAS just stating his opinion,no one would make a big deal out of it if he said you were gorgeous or pretty,not to mention,I recall people on here telling some chick who was on here the other day that if her boyfriend calls her breasts ugly,she should just get over it,so those same people are going to contradict themselves.Anyways...

-Make sure that your skincare routine consists of Cleanse,Tone and Moisturize.

Cleanser should be right for skin tone and skin concern.If you have oily skin,blackheads,whiteheads or cysts,use a cleanser with Salicylic Acid,if you have zits,use a cleanser with Benzoyl Peroxide,if you have dry skin,use a creamy/milky cleanser.If you have normal skin any cleanser will do.And for combination skin,a gel like cleanser will do.

Toner should be alcohol free.Witch Hazel is great for oily and acne prone skin.

Moisturizer should be oil free,non comedogenic and not clog pores.

-Exfoliate skin 1-2x a week.

-Work out for 30-60 minutes everyday.Strength training should be done 2-3x a week.

-Get 8-9 Hours of sleep every night.

-Drink 8 or more glasses of water a day to hydrate skin from within.

-Deep condition your hair once a week.Use a hot oil treatment once a month.

-Wear clothing that accentuates your body shape and curves in the right way.But you should be comfortable with what you wear.

-Keep groomed;plucking,shaving,waxing etc.Eye brows,legs,under arms,"down there"(if necessary)

-Make-up should hide imperfections and enhance features.

-Trim your ends(hair) every 6-8 weeks.

-Make sure your smile looks good.Floss,Brush every single day,whiten them if necessary.

-Make sure you have good hygiene.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well you can try and dye your hair new colour new you, make up will only take you so far, try different looks try and find out what he likes,  and  see if that improves his rating of you. You must really like him to put up with him, or maybe you enjoy the drama, do you think maybe he says that to get a rise out of you instead of say trading you in, which would be easier... only so much you can do cloths, style, hair, and make up that won't change who you are...

sovetskii13 · Accepted Answer

If he actually says "You are ugly" right to your face, then he is a bad bad person. That is very rude. He should just make a suggestion on what you can do to look even better. But saying that you are ugly is very wrong.

sweetheart18 · Answer

you want beauty advice, not relationship advice, huh?

girl I'm not gonna write a whole paragraph to you on what you need to do to improve your looks. I would any other time, but because of your situation I need to just say this:

i don't give a f*** that its his opinion. yes of course people are allowed to speak their minds. but what he is doing is killing your self esteem and self worth. you are now looking for makeup and hair styles and such to make you feel worth while for your jerk of a bf. yes, most girls I know depend on makeup and straightening their hair to help them in the beauty and confidence department. hell I do it too. but I do it FOR ME. I don't have some douche of a boyfriend looking me in the eyes everyday telling me he doesn't like the way I look. if he has that much of a problem with your "lack of beauty according to him", then why the hell is he with you? why didn't he just dump you when he decided you weren't gonna do it for him?

no for some odd reason he's kept you his girlfriend and instead continued putting you down.

that is complete bullsh*t and makes me so angry...

i know very well how much weight words carry. even if you don't notice it at first, it settles there in the back of your mind for awhile and begins to affect you in a negative way.

girl, for your own sanity, dump his ass.

you want beauty advice? go pick up a magazine. there are hundreds everywhere with tips. like I said, I would give you some, but saying this was more important. even though you obviously don't want to hear it. and I have to say, the more you don't want to hear something, the more likely chance it is that you really do know the truth. you just don't want to accept it. and you know other people are going to tell you to dump him. but you refuse to hear it. even though you know deep down that you should. wish you the best girl. you deserve way better.

ablu465 · Answer

Hi! I have a feeling that you're actually not ugly at all, and that him telling you this constantly is what is making you feel ugly in the first place! If he doesn't appreciate your looks and that is important enough to him for him to say something, then tell him that he doesn't need to stay with you. AS FOR THE BEAUTY ADVICE: I personally think foundation almost always looks cakey unless it's in a (blurry) picture (but I think you're wondering about improving your appearance for those looking at you in person...) If you have blemishes, use a spot concealer that comes in a stick. And take advantage of your curls! If you think they're too frizzy, then get a product to put in while your hair is wet after your to make it dry smoothly. I have curly hair as well and I've learned that towel drying your hair is pretty bad for it, and that you should use an old t-shirt to prevent breakage and the creation of fly-aways. I also NEVER brush my hair outside of the shower because this separates each naturally formed curl and makes your hair look puffy and kind of like George Washington's wig...

Also this is hard to believe until it's experienced personally but confidence seriously makes you appear prettier to others. The way you hold yourself (posture and body language) say SO much and can make or break the opinions of others regarding your appearance. Also! I like blush a lot and am not crazy about eye-liner but that's just an opinion. When it comes to makeup, I like it when you put very little on or very NATURAL looking colors on that compliment your skin coloring.

Butterfly_kisses09 · Answer

Oh my gosh! Your boyfriend should not be calling you ugly, dump him! You don't need to change your whole appearance just to please him. If he doesn't like you the way you are then f*ck him. Don't think of yourself as not beautiful because I'm sure you're very pretty. He needs to get his stuff together and shape up because he does not sound like a good boyfriend at all. You deserve so much better than that. I don't see why you would up with a guy that calls you ugly and says his friends girlfriends are prettier than you. That's crap!

RisaRene · Answer

Omg if my boyfriend told me I was ugly id slap him and even it he said it behind my back id dump him which my advice to you is dump him and I'm sure you don't care what poeple on the internet tell you but from what it sounds like your boyfriend is an asshole you don't need to look prettier for him stay who you are and find someone who likes you for who you are not some made up bimbo.

Good luck and I hope you take the advice to dump him

jules093 · Answer

OH MY GOD! DUMP HIM ASAP! He is RUINING ur self-esteem! I don't like how he is treating u. Boys prefer girls with no make up, there is seriously something wrong with him. you don't DESERVE that please listen to me! He is unhappy with himself and tries to pick on u. Why is he with you if he calls you ugly, you are better than that girl! Go find yourself a new boy, go out with ur girlfriends and go get ur nails done or hair and make yourself feel good, you don't need that jerk! I promise you will be way happier without him!

Anonymous · Answer

Like OMG my boyfriend is verbally and emotionally abusive to me...but I totally don't want advice for that like I just want to know how to alter myself so I can be better for him because like it's totally okay for him to insult and criticize me like that and I shouldnt stick up for myself like I should just improve myself for him so he won't be mean to me anymore and I can be the hot trophy girlfriend like OMG! I mean like it's soo not like I deserve better and I don't need some douchebag criticizing me lol I'm just gonna totally put up with it!

Wow your boyfriend definitely has the right one...

Bruce · Answer

You need to do NOTHING but DUMP THIS STUPID ASS HOL#

selfishstars · Answer

Dump your boyfriend and you will feel 100x prettier.

Desires · Answer

Wtf. Why are you even with him? Why does he stay with you if he thinks you're ugly? That's messed up bad.

Anonymous · Answer

i think if he loved you he would not say that you are ugly he would accept you the way you are, DUMP HIM!

Jenny596792 · Answer

he obviously doesn't think highly of himself so he's bringing you down to help ensure that you will feel that you are not good enough to get with another man; dump this jerk and find you a good man who thinks your beautiful for exactly who you are

Anonymous · Answer

try readind more fashion magazines and try out things in a beauty stores to see what fits you before you buy anything.

and after you're becoming more pretty, dump his sorry ass. what kind of a person will say things like this to the one he loves?

Anonymous · Answer

The best thing to do is tell him to gtfo stand up for yourself and dump him this relationship will not end on a good note at this rate it will lead to fighting just dump him

sa230e · Answer

He's an ass. Leave him.

Longshot · Answer

I do not understand why he calls you ugly. Does he mean it or is he just playing around?

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