Why does my guy friend keep blocking and unblocking me on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend calls me his best close friend but he keeps blocking and unblocking me on Facebook.

[BasicFlake]

Most likely reason: He likes you as more than a friend. Calling you his best close friend is the first sign. Guys don't usually get all emotional about friends except when it comes to girls that they actually want to be with. The second sign is the fact that he is emotionally turbulent and inconsistent with you, hence the blocking and unblocking. He is fighting with his emotions over you and he is constantly trying to seek your attention.

[Asker]

He's my ex's friend. Should I be with him if he still wants to be with me? A couple months ago I started dating him and we were gonna meet up, and he really wanted to be with me and then I told him I had to get myself together. When in reality I had a crush on someone else. I mean, I kinda wanted to be with him at that time but I had a crush on someone else too so I told him "Sorry. I have to get myself together." He said "Ok. I understand." But then he got all depressed.

[BasicFlake]

So he says that he understands but he doesn't understand. He is upset about it and he is reacting like many guys do, which is with an inability to control their emotions because guys aren't very good at having emotions. He's being inconsistent.

You say that he is your ex's friend and I would bet that he was into you while you were with your ex too. I bet he's liked you from afar from quite a long time. This could well be more deep rooted for him than you realise.

Should you be with him? Not if you have a crush on someone else, no. It says that you are not really into this guy and you'd be kidding yourself.

[Asker]

Yep that's true. Exactly. He was into me while I was with my ex and he's liked me for a long time? And yeah that's true.

[Asker]

I called his house phone and he called me back and we talked, he helped relieve me and make me feel better and he told me I can call him or message him on messenger anytime I feel down or I need to talk. And he said if he was with me he'd take care of me

[danielm95]

he likes you but he's hoping you say you want something more he's the shy type but he's also going through his own problems , doubting himself over you etc if you like him ask him on a date then you have your answer

[Asker]

I called his house phone and he called me back and we talked, he helped relieve me and make me feel better and he told me I can call him or message him on messenger anytime I feel down or I need to talk. And he said if he was with me he'd take care of me

[danielm95]

Well take it slow don't jump into anything just make sure you recognise that he's their if he feels like you see him he will be happy, next time you ring him tell him your not down you just really fancied a chat because you enjoyed the last one that should spark something up at least :)

[Asker]

I should tell him I'm not down I just really fancied a chat because I enjoyed that talk and that'll spark something up?

[danielm95]

if he thinks you only call him when something's wrong then he will just end up thinking it's a pain , but if you call him just because you like talking to him then he should notice you just bring it up in convo ask him about his day and make some of the convo about him he is sure to realize how you feel

[Bex134]

I'd ask him why he keeps doing it and go from there

[Nephilim000]

it sounds like he is upset that you aren't more than friends so he gets mad and blocks you but he hopes that if he hangs in there maybe one day something will happen so he unlocks you

[Asker]

I called his house phone and he called me back and we talked, he helped relieve me and make me feel better and he told me I can call him or message him on messenger anytime I feel down or I need to talk. And he said if he was with me he'd take care of me.

[Nephilim000]

ok so why isn't he getting with you

[Asker]

I don't know. That's a good question. I'm actually starting to wonder that too.

[Nephilim000]

i hate to say it but a lot of guys say a lot of things. actions speak louder than words

[Asker]

That's true. I noticed that with my ex. My ex would just talk talk talk but never prove.

[Nephilim000]

yeah i wish more women knew that. I hate having to pick up the pieces after broken promises

[Asker]

What do you mean pick up the pieces after broken promises? Like what you're doing with me right now? Or in your relationships?

[Nephilim000]

i don't know if you are in pieces so I don't think I an picking anything up with you. I went to a school with 7 girls for every three guys. And rumor had it I was a nice guy. so girls would come to me when things went south. I also work with teens so it's a talk I have every now and then with them as well. as far as my relationships I am still friends with most of my exes so yeah they call me up every now and then with their issues

[Asker]

Oh wow. Interesting.

[Nephilim000]

eh not really. there are days where I feel like the world's biggest sucker. all the responsibilities of a boyfriend but none of the perks. And there are days where it makes me want to cry. an exe called me up once after I had been asleep for two hours and I had to be at my second job in another. she called me after dinner with her boydriend from her hotel room that she had to get because she flew to his hometown for a long weekend. why couldn't she have unloaded her family drama on him who she was with just minutes before calling me. it took all myself control to not scream or cry

[Asker]

Oh my God. That sucks!

[Nephilim000]

eh stuff happens I try let it go as soon as I can so that it doesn't drag me down

[Asker]

That's good. It sounds like you're not like me which is good. Cuz I dwell on things and obsess over things and let them bring me down.

[Nephilim000]

Well we are all growing. I used to dwell more on stuff. But it's not the most productive behavior so I try to indulge it as little as possible. But trust me it's not easy it takes practice. But life is more fulfilling when you can start letting go of stuff quicker

[akkisma]

just take one step further and ask him the reason your problem would get solved

[BellePepper]

Why do you keep putting up with his shit?

[cootjuh]

maybe he hide you for someone

[Asker]

Hide me for someone?

[cootjuh]

yeah maybe he like u more then someone who can't know he like u

[Asker]

So he's trying to hide that he likes me?

[cootjuh]

yeah i think so

[Asker]

I called his house phone and he called me back and we talked, he helped relieve me and make me feel better and he told me I can call him or message him on messenger anytime I feel down or I need to talk. And he said if he was with me he'd take care of me