I met this guy over a month ago. He has called me EVERY day for the entire month and sometimes twice a day. He told me that he doesn't usually have good communication on the phone and that he really liked me. I even met his friends and he even talked about going on vacation with me. If he liked me then why would he tell me yesterday that he's not looking for a relationship but just a friendship? Did I totally misread all his signals.
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Oh and one more thing, I DID NOT sleep with him.
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He also just found out last week that his ex is pregnant so I'm thinking maybe he wants to work things out with her?
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Because you're safe. Your non threating. He didn't want, really, anything from you. He just got out of a relationship it sounds like and you were the first person that showed interest. You were kind of that pillow that we fall on to when we just had our hearts ripped out.
The thing is that he was showing more interest in me than I was in him. He asked me last night what kind of guy I was looking for and after he asked what qualities did I think he had to make him the guy I want to be with. I told him I didn't really know. That's when he said the whole "friend speech." He told me that I need to be more honest with my emotions and what not. I don't know what he meant by that.
There is a long list but I will tell you the short list.
One he wants to know it there was some flaw in him that made him unwantable.
Two perception is the hardest thing to understand, his body maybe saying "I want to be with you," but his head is thinking "I just want some one to talk to."
Three, he wants your honest opinion.
Sounds to me like he didn't really know what he was doing and I doubt he meant to confuse you!
I don't think you did misread the signs because if a guy I'd been seeing/chatting to a lot talking about going on holiday with me I would think he was pretty in to me.
He probably really likes you but has just realized that at the moment he just wants friends and that's why he's backing off.
You didn't do anything wrong by the sounds of it.
Thanks so much. It just gets frustrating sometimes but I'm going to just stay his friend and live my life. :-)
In view of him finding out his ex girlfriend is pregnant he probably does have lots of other stuff on his mind! Be happy x
I agree, this guy doesn't know what he wants or needs.
I agree with BGY-11's comment. Friendship is all he wanted from you. If he really want to be with you, you would never hear the word "I'm not looking for relationship right now." from him. Trust me, he doesn't want a relationship from you and just accept friendship from him and move on. I was in the same situation like you and all you gonna get are heartache and headache. I talked to this guy for almost a year and he still said we're friend but when he met this girl for less than a two week, and he said he wants to with her already. Good luck!