My boyfriend went to Vegas for a guy's weekend and took 2 condoms with him.

[Anonymous]

We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So the morning he left, I walked the bedroom and heard him at the drawer with the box of condoms, and then saw his hands in his pockets. I put it together, and figured it out. When he returned, the 2 condoms were back, so he didn't use them. The next day I asked him about it. I then told him that I saw him take them, and he said that yes he did. Reason: His friends have asked him before, so that is why he brought them. I told him I did not believe that and a fight ensued. I don't really love the idea of him going to Vegas, which he knows. In January he took off for Vegas without letting me know, and I found out he was there via a Facebook post! (I used to not use FB often.) I called him on it and he admitted that he didn’t tell me because I would get upset. So when we were discussing this condom issue, I told him that I thought his excuse was crap, and plus he had already lied to me before. So here is the question: Is there any way he really could have taken the condoms to Vegas in case a friend needed it? I think the answer is “no” but want other opinions. If he took them for himself, then I’m glad they didn’t get used, but does this mean he has likely already cheated? I need some advice here please.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend goes on boys trips all the time, I've never seen him take condoms, but he never really calls or anything like that. It's hard not to freak out, but at some point you just have to try to trust them and not freak out because a). if you freak out they'll get mad or start wondering if it's worth putting up with the insecurities, etc and b). if he's not cheating, accusing him of it a lot will only push him toward actually doing it.

His friends are pushing for a vegas trip and I'm really panicking myself especially because they all "loooove the hang over" and always put stuff on Facebook about how "boyfriend's name should totally marry a f***ing stripper we gotta make it happen" etc because he's the only one in a relationship.

Do your snooping if you feel you need to, but try not to accuse him or press on the issue much until you have evidence, if there is any. And for any other trips or anything else, just try not to freak. Do things with your girls so you don't think about it too much.

Oh, and on the chance he did cheat without using them -- I'd refrain from (unprotected) sex.

[Tamikaze]

Sure, he might have been getting them for a friend but it sounds kind of lame, just 2 condoms? AND, his friend took them but then gave them back for him to return to the drawer? I just cannot see a guy taking condoms from a friend and then giving them back.

Reality is, though, that if a guy wants to cheat, he can do it. I personally would not worry about my partner going to Vegas but I date guys that are open books and I really feel confident that they wouldn't cheat. Sure, maybe they could, but unlikely in my opinion and I don't want a guy chained to my side. I want a guy that is okay with me going to Vegas too, without freaking out on me, so I have to extend that to him as well.

So, not sure if he is a cheater or looking to cheat. I think women have an intuition about whether their guy is up to something. It is usually tied to how he treats you in general and whether he seems honest and caring or whether he does a lot of things that shows he is in it for himself and not you.

[tweetynet]

Just an idea not an excuse, but my boyfriend uses them himself, its less messy. And only two? sorry but random hookups are likely to be more and there are always hassles with putting them on. And if a guy is going to cheat getting condoms is no hassle. Whether its for his friends or him, he could cheat with or without the condoms. Be happy they are back and try and make it less of a big deal if he goes away cause he will be happy to come back and he will be more open about leaving and what he does. I don't think he cheated. and if you have had some fights about it, you would no by now if he had. People blurt out things in the middle of arguments.

[troytoburn]

I was also a little puzzled about him only bringing two. And the "less messy" thing is true, too. Perhaps he was intending to finish himself off. But either way... even two is few, for that purpose...

The more troubling part, to me, is still that he went to Vegas the first time around without telling her!

[Anonymous]

Holy crab, I mean ALLAH CRAB! lolz. By the way, I think you should be concern over this or blame, or ask him at this time. What would man do if he goes to Las vegas? com'on, to be honest, Las Vegas is the house of sexy and if he came with condoms it is highly likely he had some sexy. You could have gone with him or asked him to stay with you but now focus either endign the relationship or keeping it smooth by forgiving him. THere is nothing you can do about it because you let him go alone.

[PilatesGuy]

He probably took them as little raincoats for his ring finger because he was worried that if it rained, the eternity ring he wears for you would get wet, and that would make his heart sore.

Or then again, maybe he took them because he was thinking he might get laid, or even visit a prostitute.

Which do you think is more likely?

[SweetT]

They are not married so yeah option 2

[SIS21703]

no he probably didn't cheat but was going to be prepared if it did happen you know what they say what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Let me ask you did he know you know how many condoms were left in the box because if he new you new then he might just be replacing them so you wouldn't know they were gone be careful but at least he is using protection girl but we still don't want our men to cheat regardless. All you can do is give this another shot it is Vegas in he won't ever see that person again. Just keep your eyes open but don't break it off hold on for a little while longer let him know he can come talk to you about anything in you will be opened minded about it if he feels like oh god she is just going to flip out if I tell her then he will hide a lot more things from you you want to be the kind of girlfriend he can talk to about anything. GOOD LUCK

[Littletad]

Go to Victoria's Secret or Fredericks, and buy some new lingerie. Lay it on the bed, a day or two before your own Vegas vacation. Let's see how he likes that.

[yeths]

I think he's up to no good, guys buy their own condoms, I think you really want the relationship to work, that's why you are looking for answers you already know deep down inside. From an outsiders prospective, this guy is still immature and searching for a good time, whether he use the condoms or not it was bad enough that he took them.

[TropicalBreeze1984]

First of all, guys get their OWN condoms, remember that, hell, some guys don't use any at all!

He's lying out of his ass, he brought the condoms with him like a freakin retard, if he was SMARTER, he would of bought them in vegas

Don't be stupid, don't make excuses for him, leave because he will forever cheat on you and obviously has NO respect for you.

[anonymousdude2]

Probably not, dudes only bum condoms last minute. Like before the act happens. I couldn't see myself calilng someone before we leave to vegas to bring his condoms for me.

I also do know guys who have to lie so their girls don't get upset. But it's not right IMO.

He's more than likely lying. Fire his ass UP.

[darkknight1x]

It was Vegas of course he cheated on you. Move on and find another guy that doesn't act shady.

According to 2 articles I found 80% of women that have a gut feeling their man cheated are right. Read the fifth to last note on this link: link

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[sexychick1]

He took them for himself. But what if he was down there and used them and bought more. You really don't know what went on. I think you have reason not to trust this guy, because he is lied to you before. He is probably still not being honest with you.

[kisi85]

hmmm...I would trust your instincts. But, like a few people have said on here, you should go to Vegas without him. Take some sexy lingerie. Or you could just talk to him about it. Tell him to fess up and you can decide if you're willing to work through it. But if anything like it happens again, then he can just jog on.

[skye7839495]

if I were you, I would take a holiday in vegas and see how he likes it. I would probably think the condoms were for him since his friends could probably buy some over there? and just because they came back unused, doesn't mean that he didn't hook up with a girl who already had some condoms on her?

[wellshii]

And this is what makes the nice guys look bad.listen,I'm a guy,and although buying the condoms later would have been smart,he still took them.he's most likely looking to have a good time you know what I mean?its sad because I have friends from work who I've even asked myself have you cheated on her,and almost always its a yes.I'm like damn that's f***ed up.guys cheat a lot,but so do girls...I think?idk,but its still f***ed up though.if I were a girl,id leave him...

[dollme777]

WHAT! You need to do some snooping serious snooping because we always want to think the answer is no but beleive me a lot of us are wrong...I think he stuck with that what happens in vegas stays in Vegas girly

[Asker]

Thanks for your thoughts. What should I look for if I snoop? I don't think he's having an affair here (he is always with me on the weekends and at night, etc) Perhaps he wasn't planning on cheating in Vegas, but had them with "just in case"

[Dines]

Ask his friends, and see what they say.

[dollme777]

DONT! ask the friends because the friends are going to have his back it he is doin something, and that will just mess up ypur snooping...i say look through his phone, text messg, email what ever type communication he has and maybe look through his bags he took to Vegas look for those condoms will they be gone open or what...and a guy can always find time to cheat believe me youd be surprise.

[swagger]

Do not go through a persons things. That is disrespectful! You slags deserve to be cheated on

[dollme777]

Hey...if the guy is up to no good well he is being disrespectful...save me that line boys

[Chameleon120]

well, I've heard and seen men giving condoms to guys under 18 because they can't buy them. but it sounds like his friends are over 18...maybe it was just too awkward for his friends to buy condoms? I don't know what they would be worried about...maybe there really shy? do you know his friends?

if his friends aren't shy tho I would say that he brought them for himself...at least he was being safe...but still, that's weak if he brought them for himself when he has you at home.

[cheeseball818]

I think its a lame excuse. Why couldn't his friends bring/buy their own condoms? And if that was the case, maybe he would've told you in advance so you wouldn't jump to conclusions. Its hard to tell. But, why don't you try asking one of the guys he went with if they asked for condoms? They may try to cover for him, so try to phrase it in a way that doesn't make you sound suspicious of him cheating.

[Xenophobia]

Vegas is a wild place. If his friends are not responsible to bring their own condoms, then they must be retarded. He was definitely using them for himself.

Get rid of the guy. He's a dirtbag.

[Anonymous]

the fact that he took them shows that he wanted to use them. obviously didn't get lucky! if he didn't want to cheat then he would have never taken them.

and the fact that eh didn't even tell you he was going to vegas proves he doesn't care what you think, because he will do what he wants no matter what!

so yes not saying he has, but there's a possibility that he's cheated before and gotten away with it.

i wouldn't trust him

[Anonymous]

i'm sorry but he already cheated. why wouldn't a friend have his own condoms if he is going to use them? the saying goes what happened in vegas stays in vegas. maybe he did cheat and he bought condoms in vegas? I'm not tryng to upset you but I am being logical. consider yourself having a get out of jail free card lol. if there is any guy out there that you would like to be with then have at it guilt-free

[troytoburn]

For me, it's not even so much the condoms issue as it is the fact that the last time he went to Vegas (why without you?) he didn't tell you. What sort of boyfriend does that? This is sounding like a very unhealthy relationship. :(

[m3TALchick]

OH NO; my man would not being going to Vegas with two condoms let a lone without me. He might not have need them cause that nasty bitch he could have slept with had some. That is not kewl, gurl.

[swagger]

Hate Men!!!!!

[swagger]

What a control Freak

[m3TALchick]

A guy friend of mine went to Las Vegas with some of his buddies. This is a true story. They said they were gonna NOT use condoms and change their names to something temporary; just encase they got someone pregnant. I said your so freaking stupid; condoms protect against more then pregnancy; how do you know if any of those girls got herpes or worse? Ew. Guys do nasty crap when they go to Vegas.

[mikesta22]

i personally think he took em for himself, I mean why can't his friends buy their own condoms and who knows he could have used em and bought a new pack and brought em back home

[bananahnahnah]

BITCH lay off ! the condoms werent used so he probably got some girl pregnant.and is not telling you he got drunk, had sex,and has another girlfriend. oh what does he look like?I have a boyfriend across the country and he had 2 condoms in his pocket his friend loaned him one and its personnel of what we did. I LIVE IN VEGAS!