My boyfriend wanted a baby, now he doesn't want to be with me. I'm heartbroken and pregnant.

[qtcharlte]

We weren't' getting along so I moved out. He never asked me to come back or acted like he wanted me to come back. Now I need him in my life and he says he will be there for me and the baby but that we can't work this out.

This is the second time he has gotten me pregnant and then changed his mind.

I can't handle being heartbroken and pregnant.

[themastaplan]

woah...whats his deal...how far along are you? can you do plan b? this is bad situation, I feel for you...he seems like a scumbag to tell you he wants to have a baby then leave you...how is that fair to your heart and emotions...afterall you have his child in you - I don't see his logic behind any of this - he seems selfish...and damn right he'll be there, he better give you child support - he doesn't seem like he'll be a good father, when you love someone you have a child and start a family with them and you are there for better and worse, again I'm sorry for the situation you're in, he needs to be mature and take responsibilities for his actions and work with you on your relationship not only for you two but the child as well...

[qtcharlte]

I am going on 13 weeks. Thank you for your sympathy... I have begged him to work on this with me and he just says he knows it will never work out so he can't. I just don't know what to do from here.

[themastaplan]

How does he know? see that's the problem with people in america...im assuimg that's where you're from...if people only worked as hard at their relationships and marriages as they do at their jobs, there would be less of a break-up/divorse rate...its a shame really - people don't understand any relationship takes work and there will always be ups and downs - even with same sex relationships...too bad, this guy has karma coming at him for sure...i wish you luck

[qtcharlte]

Thank you so much. you're right, relationships are work, and I was fully prepared to work as hard as I could to make it last. but he just "knows" it won't work and is unwilling to do anything to fix it. so.. indeed, Americans are lazy when it comes to relationships and working for them. if it isn't easy then get out, that's the new way.

[themastaplan]

Lol...just make sure you aren't "fighting" for his love....that isn't "love"...he should love you and want to take care of you...take some time from him, do not talk to him, he nees to see what life is like w/o you...if he doesn't come crawling back in a few weeks he's scum, I know its important to have a father figure in your childs life but who wants a guy that's going to be like this...what morals will he teach your child...be strong, you can do this and remember you're not the only one!

[moaterboat]

If he wasn't able to commit to marriage how did you expect him to commit to raising a child with you?

[qtcharlte]

That's a good point. I should have required more of a commitment before agreeing to this! But the situation is here.. now what?

[Anonymous]

So you guys already have a baby and this is your second one?

I'm not sure what you can do. This is an unimaginable situation to be in. But you know he's a jerk. Don't fall for it again

[qtcharlte]

The first pregnancy didn't go full term and we broke up. I know he's a jerk, I know I need to move on, I just don't know how to at this point.

[dudeman]

If he's a jerk she's a dumb bitch it goes both ways lady its not all one way

[qtcharlte]

Dudeman has a good point. BUT he begged me for this, I gave him everything he wanted and he just gets to say "nevermind" I don't want to be with you anymore! that IS a jerk dudeman, what did I do to deserve to be called a dumb bitch?

[Opinion Owner]

You did nothing to be called that. You just happened to fall in love with the wrong person. But learn from your mistake and don't let it happen again

[qtcharlte]

Very true. I am trying my hardest to learn the most out of this experience and to never repeat anything like it again.

[enlightenment]

Do you want the child? Adoption is an option if you are open to it.

[qtcharlte]

I do want the child, I'm very excited and happy. I just wanted this experience to be with the father and the man I loved. But if he has chosen to opt out of this experience there is nothing I can do, but heal the broken heart and move on.

[enlightenment]

Ok...well again, adoption is an option if you want to move on and don't want the kid. Moving on is good, I just hope you don't keep it on the hope he will come back.

[qtcharlte]

Oh no. I'm not keeping the baby as a means to get him back! I already love this baby more than words can say. that has nothing to do with him.