My best friend told me today that he has feelings for me.

This morning I woke up with this text "I can't sleep, because the truth is, I can't stop thinking about you. you mean so much to me, I guess what I want to say is I have feelings for you. I know it sounds weird written out. anyways I just miss you so much. tell me if I am crazy." I have been have... Show More

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  • I know that friendships are very valuable and nobody wants to risk threatening one by making into something other than we are already comfortable with. But you need to ask yourself a couple of questions. First, don't you want to have a long-term, maybe even lifelong, relationship with someone you would think of as your best friend? This doesn't happen by accident. You have to be compatible as friends before a relationship for this to ever have a chance of being true. Second, friendships always wane as time goes on. It is inevitable. Every girl that I ever had feelings for but did not pursue because I didn't want to threaten the great friendship we had is now not even an acquaintance. Wouldn't it be better to take a chance and find out if something could be the best romance ever rather than protect it and watch it drift away anyway. Take the chance. He knows everything about you anyway, so he is not going to wake up one morning and go running for the hills when he discovers your annoying habits (he could probably list them off now at any time you asked him). Trust me, there is probably less fear to be had in dating a great friend than kissing a bunch of frogs, never finding a prince and winding up with a bunch of bad relationship woes (or warts).