I'm 18 and want to sleep over my boyfriend's house but I think my mom is against it?

[zombie_girl_xxx]

I turned 18 two weeks ago and a senior in high school. My boyfriend lives an hour away from me. Sunday, he's moving back to his original home town that would be two hours away from me. So we'd see each other even less. He works, I can't find a job. My state has horrible employment. Anyways, he's moving back to his home town until he goes to Army boot camp in early June. I'm going to Navy boot camp in October, possibly sooner if I push to get my date moved up. So this is one my last few times to spend time with him, you know?

I'm a responsible girl. I don't lie to my parents about my whereabouts, my friends are dropping and failing out of school like flies and I go every day and do my best. I'm going to be doing something with my life. And I feel like I've already made the most "grown up" decision I could ever have made when I joined the military. So I think I'm old enough to spend a night at my boyfriend's house and come back in town the next morning.

I'm not going to his house to have sex. We haven't even had sex. Like I said, this will be one of the last times I have to see him. We're both going active duty. And he'll be back for a week of leave, I think, right before I go to boot camp. And when I get out of boot camp, I probably won't get to see him on my leave. And to make matters worse, I'm doing a seamen apprenticeship so I'll be on a boat for a while getting hands on training with all the jobs on the boat.

So I just want to sleep over my boyfriend's house before he leaves.

I haven't talked to my mom about sleeping over a guy's house while I've been 18. But I know she disapproved when I was 16 and 17 saying I was too young, even if they were just a friend. All of my friends are guys, so I never got to sleep out.

I know that I'm 18 and legally I can, but I'd feel much better about this if I could convince her, instead of just doing it. I respect her opinion and whatnot, but times have changed and I'm a good kid.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I really don't know how this got into sexuality when I put it in relationships...

[WtfIdiot]

What can I say, really? Probably nothing without being offensive to your mother.

"13 year old girls have fully developed breasts and curves. Simultaneously they are kept in a state of artificial innocence by parents in denial about the fact their children want to have sex. By 13, kids have wanted to have sex - longed for it, begged for it, f***ed themselves to sleep every night - for at least two sweaty, desperate years. But of course, as always, the old betray the young. Their parents refuse to teach them even the basics of sexual intercourse. Never before in human history has it been so in vogue among adults for the truth of human sexuality to be hidden from adolescents."

I didn't write this. But I agree with it..

You're 18 (not 13) for f***s sake.. Who cares about your mum? It is so much effort not to put her down. because what she is doing.. is stupid.

[zombie_girl_xxx]

I know. She's being stupid. She doesn't realize that I'm growing up and times have changed.

[Shaun]

If you don't have a place to live, I suggest you keep your mom happy.

[dave216]

OK, grow up. Your a legal adult, but if you don't start acting like one you never be treated like one. You should respect your parents opinions, but that doesn't mean you need to agree with them or abide by them. Next time you see your mom, tell her " I won't be home Friday night. I didn't want you to worry so I thought I would let you know." If she asks where you will be, tell her and then go on about your business. You don't ask, you tell her. When you ask permission you are empowering the person to say no. Don't be childish, act like an adult. Take control of your life and act your age. About the worst she can do verbally is tell you she forbids it, to which you simply reply " Mother, you can forbid anything you like, but I am free, white, and 18 and I will decide things for myself.

Good luck :)

[zombie_girl_xxx]

I agree. Thanks. :) I was planning on telling her that I was staying out and if she objected I would politely tell her I wasn't asking for her blessing.

But there's also the chance she could kick me out. Which would be hella stupid for just sleeping over a boyfriend's house. Though I don't think she would because I'm her first born. And I'm leaving in a little over 6 months and she knows I would never come back.

[CapnBlack]

Parents will parent you till you leave the house. These mutual feelings of parenting will leave when you become independent. Do exactly as you please, your 18. But take into consideration other peoples opinions especially people older than you and people you see that are happy.

-Your mother might be protective cause she screwed up herself a few times with guys.

[zombie_girl_xxx]

I take in her opinion, but at the same time I feel I'm old enough to start making my own decisions.

I really don't think she screwed up. I mean, there's no way she was a saint like she described herself (she grew up in the 60s, 70s, and 80s when it was sex and drugs and rock n' roll) but I don't think she made mistakes. Besides getting married too young she says.

[CapnBlack]

You totally are old enough. To make mistakes and awesome things. maybe you should have sex with him before he goes?

[zombie_girl_xxx]

I'm taking that into consideration. I've only had sex with one person and I've figured out that sex isn't as big of a deal as school made it out to be. It happens in a relationship and it's normal. So I probably will.