Boyfriend says he wants to break up because he doesn't want to hurt me anymore?

What happened is this, my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year. We're in a serious and matured relationship. I always knew that he had an ex he cherished a lot. Recently, he told me that he still couldn't get over his ex and that he still loves his ex more than he loves me. He asked... Show More

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  • It sounds like he is not quiet sure of what he wants. He loves you but he loves his ex. I think that it would be wise if you both took some time to figure out what you both need. For him he needs to figure out what he needs and you you need to figure out if you want to compete with his thoughts of his past. Definitely stay in contact but take your time.

    • what do I needa do to stay in contact? I tried asking him out for breakfast but he shot the thought down...i mean, I don't wana risk bugging him and be a pest...what do you think I shud do? thanks alot...

    • He is gonna have to make his own choices of course. The most you can really do is just let him know that your there as his friend. The things you can do which it sounds like your already doing is give him a call occasionally and try to hang out sometimes. Really the rest is gonna be up to him.

    • Dear all, thanks for your input...its been almost 2 months since the breakup...i'm proud to say I've been independent and I've been keeping myself pretty occupied with work and friends...i still bump into him occasionally and I tried my best to be cool about things.. he did text me twice or so throughout these 2 months to ask me how I was etc...The way I look at it, I think he's moved on ...altho I still love him and miss him so so much...i suppose I'll just have to move on too...