Ex Boyfriend has reluctantly agreed to meet - should I go?

jessij121
We were together for 3.5 years and lived together for 2 of those years although have been living separately for the last year. My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 weeks ago now as he said the relationship wasn't right and that we hadn't achieved what we should have done. I tried to get him to change his mind at the time but he was convinced it was the right thing to do rather than stay togehter and get even more hurt further down the line. I didn't hear from him for 2 weeks then he text me last weekend to say that he missed me loads and thinks about me every day. I called him today as feeling really upset and he said that it isn't easy for him either and doesn't think we should meet until we are both completely over it as he would really like to be able to be friends in the future. I have managed to convince him to meet me for a drink in 2 weeks time but he was very reluctant about meeting up so soon. My questions are -

- If this isn't easy for him and he missed me why is he so sure that we should break up?

- Should I even bother meeting him for a drink if it isn't what he really wants to do?

- Why do guys still want to be friends after they break up with someone, he says that once we are over the relationship it won't be much different to what it was we can still meet up and do stuff together - what does this mean?

- Any advice on why I should/shouldnt do if I do end up meeting up with him in a couple of weeks?

Thanks!
Ex Boyfriend has reluctantly agreed to meet - should I go?
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