Thoughts on irresponsible teen moms?

[chriiistelkelly]

What are your thoughts and opinions on careless, irresponsible teen moms?

this subject really pisses me off. when I go out, I see TWELVE year old moms. like, seriously? my biggest pet peeve is a brainless teen who thinks they're cool having unprotected sex, then bringing a child into the world, and neglecting it, and not knowing how to properly care for it.

don't get me wrong, I have much respect for GOOD teen moms who give their child love, care, and make sure it has the best home possible. but for the teens who can't take care of their kid, they deserve a HUGE slap in the face. I hate the MTV show 'Teen Mom.' all it is, is immature 16 year old, drama-filled teen girls who have sex and have a kid. usually, there's no father figure around to support the child. how could you do that to an innocent baby? it's ridiculous. if you're gonna have a kid, make sure you're READY. and RESPONSIBLE, and MATURE. I'm 16, and I'm not having sex till I'm at least 20. and I'm not having a child till I'm married.

hahah, sorry for ranting. :)

what's your thoughts and opinions on irresponsible teenaged mothers?

p.s, NO hate to GOOD teen moms, only the irresponsible ones.

:)

[Darkfairie17]

I hear where you are coming from. I come from a small town where this sort of stuff is rampant. A big chunk of the teen girls there are having babies, a lot on purpose. Because they think they are mature, and fully grown and believe they are capable of raising a baby. It just makes me shake my head when they go around talking crap to everyone because they think they know better. I don't hate on them, but I just wish they would make better decisions. I realize that teens can sometimes be mislead and make bad decisions, we don't all come from ideal backgrounds, but the whole town too promotes it. It's becoming a thing, the baby showers are held and there is no shame. I'm not saying that people shouldn't celebrate a life coming into the world. But it shouldn't be treated like the kid who is having the baby is an adult and is going to be able to understand the consequences.

I really think that schools need to really educate teens on the reality of living. That expenses are not just magically paid for by some sugar plum fairy, but that they have to have a job. And a lot of times they have to have more than one to just get by. Plus to know how to budget and manage money and time. Because kids don't run on schedules.

I have a lot of friends too that missed out on their early twenties because they had kids young, my one friend had a baby at 17, another at 18, and one at 19. They all miss going out and having a good time with friends. But baby sitters are expensive and having kids means sacrifices. They don't regret having their kids, they just wish they waited so they could enjoy this part of their lives first. Now they have to wait until they are older.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

I have a friend who got pregnant last year. She's a sweet girl and she used protection (condoms) but sometimes sh*t happens that you're unprepared for. However she is a wonderful mom, even though the jacka** guy left her, she has support from all her friends and family which really makes a difference. I would never talk bad about teen moms like her but I understand what you're talking about.

Some girls are just idiots and think a baby is a "play doll" that they can just put away when they don't want to play anymore. They're too stupid to realize that being a *good* mother is s full time job. I have no sympathy for girls who have a baby and don't want to take the time to take care of him/her.

I am sexually active, I am on the pill and my boyfriend and I always use condoms. However I realize that there is always a chance of pregnancy no matter how many precautions you take. But my boyfriend and I have talked about ut and IF I were to get pregnant on ACCIDENT, I know he would be there for me and we would both be there for the child. It disgusts me to see teen moms neglect their child. I agree with you on that 100%.

[arsenal25]

when I see them I feel sorry for them, don't judge someone til you are in their shoes. Yes they are irresponsible, and they brought a child in to the world when they weren't prepared to take care of him/her. Its their mistake and their life, and god will be the one judging them. They made a mistake by having sex, it is their fault but it is also their parents fault, and societies for making sex seem to be the thing to do sort of. You sit and judge here how could they do that to the innocent child, well guess what they were not fortunate enough to have parents like you to bring you up with the values you have, they had a different life. Whenever I met girls with kids, at a young age I just treat them like someone who needs help, I have had talks and when you listen to them somehow you see the picture better.

[Vyxzuw]

One thing to keep in mind. Most of the girls are raising the child without the father.

So at least they are better than the male parent who is completely neglecting the child in most cases.

Also, if the mom is twelve, then can you really expect them to be responsible? While sometimes it is because of irresponsible behavior. It can also be caused by the girls being taken advantage of by older men.

Then the girl TRIES to be a good mom, but being so young, they fail because they weren't ready for it. Nor were they ready for sex, but they were pushed into it in some cases.

[Snar87]

I see that often in my neighborhood to the point it doesn't bother me much. Most of them were very irresponsible. Try living in a community where baby showers are held and there's little to no shame factor of being a teen mom. Regardless of what they jump on the NBC specials and rant and rave about, most of these teen mothers aren't victims of some guy they just fell in love with. They were just sleeping around. They are just romanticizing things to make people feel sorry for them. I feel nothing for these mothers.

[buttercup5]

Anyone who gets pregnant very young is irresponsible, and usually "good" teen mothers have their parents' help.

I am obviously not calling victims of crime irresponsible - that's a different situation.

[pepper01]

i have a cousin who has 2 kids and she's 19.. defnatly not a good mother at all! but ANYONE can be irresponsible even people out of their teens so it goes both ways. you talk a big game about not having sex until 20 and not getting pregnant until your married. most people dream this and it never happens lol. you might fall in love and lose it younger than 20 and get pregnant before your married,

[ras144]

"TWELVE year old moms"

I don't care what anyone says, if you have a pregnant 12 year old daughter, you failed as a parent. Never in my life have I ever heard a properly raised tween have sex and get pregnant.

I have mixed feeling on seeing a pregnant tween because I heard most of them just get abortions.

Brainless teens WILL ALWAYS be the result of brainless uninvolved parents.

Just know that accidents happen. My mom had me at 27, but I was still an accident.

[xBec14x]

I think you are right all the way. But I think that being a teen mom at all

Is stupid because you should finish school and get a good job and maybe go to college for a year or two first.

[NickieLas101891]

What hood do you live in that you see 12 year old moms? And I like teen mom sooooooo...cool it. The only teen moms that aggravate me are the intentional pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

i got pregnet at 15 and im seventeen now i have a daughter and im 17 I've given up my life for her. i agree the other teen moms who dont give a crap about there children i hate that

[0ddjob]

Preach it, sister!