I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now. For the past 2 months my boyfriend has been hanging out with a new group of friends, who have influenced him to smoke weed. Now he gets high 2-3 times per week. Since we live pretty far away from each other (1.5 hour drive), we don't see each other often, only on the weekends. Usually he'd call or text me every day to briefly ask how I'm doing and vice versa. He didn't tell me he picked up taking pot for a month. During the first month when I call him, he rarely picked up my calls and send one word replies when he's bothered to text me back. His reason for this was because he's busy. When I suggest we see each other on the weekend, he'd say he's busy. I noticed he would contact me less until it gradually got to a point where he didn't bother to contact me for a week.
I decided to ask him if he's losing interest in me. He told me he still loves me but the reason why he 'dreads' calling or picking up the phone is 'because I'm high maintenance and want constant attention.'
I told him his lack of affection was upsetting me, though he didn't care because to him it was my fault that I'm being demanding.
I don't think I am, all I request is that he gives me a 5 minute call catching me up on his day at least 3 times a week. We had an argument... but in the end we sorted things out - he agreed to call me (or text if he's tired etc... saying goodnight...) as long as I gave him space.
A few days later he told me about the weed smoking.
It's been 2 months now... and I've seen him once during that time because he's busy hanging out with mates. He's planning on moving in with them at the end of next month.
I love him a lot and want us to work but I don't know if this will get better or worse... I'm not feeling much affection from him anymore.
Anyone with advice? Thanks for reading.
I decided to ask him if he's losing interest in me. He told me he still loves me but the reason why he 'dreads' calling or picking up the phone is 'because I'm high maintenance and want constant attention.'
I told him his lack of affection was upsetting me, though he didn't care because to him it was my fault that I'm being demanding.
I don't think I am, all I request is that he gives me a 5 minute call catching me up on his day at least 3 times a week. We had an argument... but in the end we sorted things out - he agreed to call me (or text if he's tired etc... saying goodnight...) as long as I gave him space.
A few days later he told me about the weed smoking.
It's been 2 months now... and I've seen him once during that time because he's busy hanging out with mates. He's planning on moving in with them at the end of next month.
I love him a lot and want us to work but I don't know if this will get better or worse... I'm not feeling much affection from him anymore.
Anyone with advice? Thanks for reading.
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