I know the situation realy, a friend of mine is kind a like you.
I think it's just that everyone likes the nice guy, no one loves the nice guy.
If they say you're like a brother to them it's most likely because you are. You probably are very nice for them with all good means but it results in 0 attraction.
If you want to get the next one instead of getting friendzoned, then put yourself on the first spot. Be Batman, not robin.
It's by the way a good start that you can get along well with girls, it gives you a good position to practice and experiment with attraction and attraction killers.
From what I know, attraction can be easely achieved with 3 keywords: Excitement, Mystery and Humor.
Excitement: Let the girl be excited about you and your presence, about what you're going to do, where you're going,... If you have an awesome story, don't just tell it, first say something like "Guess what happend to me last week while I was working at ...!" And actualy make her guess. After a bit of fun guessing and joking around you can tell the story and she will be listening a lot more than when you'd just tell it.
Mystery: Make yourself a mystery, don't let them know to much to fast about you. Let them discover who you are instead of just throwing it out there.
A simple example is NOT saying "I had a great time we should do it again sometime soon" after a date. this creates mystery AND excitement because she might know how you felt about the date but she'll be wondering a lot about it as you haven't confirmed how you felt about it. It makes her guess about your feelings and as she thinks and guesses about it, she's thinking of you. Double win.
Last but not least, Humor! Be yourself and everything will be alright, everyone is funny to the person that is right for them. And if things get to serious, think about the fact that we're all just talking monkeys on a giant biological spaceship :)
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It's because you just start out with friend vibes rather than "hey date me" vibes.
With my circle of friends, the friend zone guy is just nice and not aggressive, they meet girls and fall for girls after 8 months, girls who he has already developed a "friendship" with.
They don't however, ask girls out in fear of rejection. So they sort of play it safe then when they ask out their friends, the girls think he's just desperate because she's available... they don't want that.
When you meet a girl and things are going well just ask her out. This is going to yield you to be rejected more but it'll also cut down the amount of "friend zone" dating.
Look. No matter what other guys tell you about how girls aren't interested in a guy if he gets too close as a friend, or if he's too nice, or if he's not exciting enough, what it comes down to is we simply don't like you enough to date you.
I could use That-Guy's answer as a perfect example of the wrong way to look at things (sorry to call you out, That-Guy). I don't reject guys because they're friends with me and don't have enough "date me" vibes and don't flirt with me enough, I reject them because I simply don't want to date them.
Every single guy I've been in a serious relationship with has started out as a best friend first. I LOVE getting to know someone really well before I date them. On the other hand, many guy friends I've had are guys I will never be interested in. ALL it comes down to is compatibility. Can I see myself with them? Are they smart, funny, considerate? Do we have a lot in common?
Also, I'm certainly not going to date a guy who's bitter about being "just a friend" and thinks he has no shot because of that. Bad attitude.
The friend zone is not some default place girls put guys who didn't become a date fast enough. A friend is what we consider guys we like as a friend and not romantically. We probably never will. The only thing I can suggest is either reconsider the type of girls you're going after (are they in your league? are they showing you signs of liking you and flirting?), or consider your own behavior. Do you flirt and make a woman feel desired, and do you have your own life and interests, or are you just the nice guy who's always around?
Women under a certain age... we don't care about the job and the car, we care about how you make us feel.
its because you wait too long to tell a girl you like her. if you befriend a girl then she will see you as a friend. after becoming friends and close with the guy, its almost like he's your brother so then if he were to flip things around and tell you he's interested, its like well I don't really see you that way
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"That-Guy" should get best answer by the way.
When it comes to girls you have interest in, make your interest known from the get-go, from the jump, from the initial interaction.
If you are fearful (yes, I said FEARFUL) of rejection, don't make your interest known initially, and "play it safe"...
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...she'll see you as a friend, because frankly that's what you presented yourself as if you're make yourself known that you want MORE than friendship.
Gotta have balls to get women, dude. W/o them...you're a gal-pal with a penis to them.Lose the damn wait.
Stop being friends first.
Maybe you're sending out asexual vibes, which is a problem.
Or maybe the problem is that the 'befriend a girl then make a move' lets you hit on, I don't know, 5 girls a year. That is not a good opportunity set. You simply need to find out much SOONER if she has any interest, because if not, you're wasting all your time on her.
You are investing WAY TOO MUCH emotionally in girls without having any clue if they are interested in you.Guys who get friend zoned by my friends and I are usually hitting on us and talking or trying to talk to us when we have a boyfriend. Also, when they come on too fast. When they are extremely interested in us..It makes us friend zone you.
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