However, it is very hard to run across guys who don't want them either.
Are their guys who don't want kids either? Why?
It is making dating harder and harder.
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You could change your mind when you're older, but if not then no big deal. Are there guys who won't want kids? Yeah, a lot of guys don't want kids just like I know a lot of guys who do want kids. Most guys that don't want kids also don't want to be in a serious relationship either. Some do, though. Typically, girls who don't want kids tend to be career oriented. Guys are typically career oriented anyways, but the ones that don't want kids tend to be really high up there in their careers. This is not to say that guys who are high up there in their careers financially are guys that don't want kids, but guys that don't want kids tend to be high up there. This is all generally speaking... so of course there are guys and girls on the opposite ends that I mentioned... but for the most part that's how it is, or how I have at least noticed it to be.
At your age, guys who don't want kids are going to be focused solely on their career that they don't want to be in a relationship. So, I can see how it will make dating harder and harder.
I've broken up with, or have been broken up with by women for the same reason. I'm not completely and totally against the idea, but so many people have NO IDEA what it means to have kids, and only have a romantic idea of little babies, without a clue about the day-to-day realities.
And let's face it: there are WAY too many kids out there already who don't have a home and a family. When the adoption agencies and foster-care systems are drained, THEN we can make more. Until then, it's just PRACTICE.
i DEFINITELY don't want kids. the happiest people I know in life are gay men...no kids, no parental responsibilities, just disposable income for living the good life. those dudes have the game figured out.
it's not to say I don't have SOME paternal instinct, but it's only the "throw the ball around in the back yard" part. so my plan for that is coaching youth football. BORROW other people's kids three or four days a week for two hours, do the fun sh*t, then send them home and YOU can pay for them, YOU can deal with the incessant questions, YOU can get woken up at 6:30 on your days off...i'm all set with that stuff. I saw one of those "someEcards" things that summed this up perfectly: "every time I see a cute child, I remind myself how awesome it is to sleep through the night."
I don't want children either. They're expensive, tons of work and you have to take a backseat to them for 18 years. If I were dating right now I wouldn't want to get serious with a girl that really wanted children either but if she was literally the perfect girl for me and she wanted one or 2 I might compromise lol. She would have to have a decent job though! I might change my mind in 5 years or so but I kinda doubt it. Its hard to predict the future about some things.
I don't want kids ever. I can't stand them. from what I know they are so much work and little reward for the effort. I like quiet time and I understand children are only quiet while sleeping and getting some kids to go to sleep can be a battle (seen how hard it can be in person)
I don't date because I know I'm not currently dating material. unemployed and living at home as a result.
guys that don't want kids typically don't want committed relationships either not in the to death do us part sort of way more of the till I get bored with her sort of way, with that being said I want four kids
Guys who don't want kids many times don't want wives either. =P I know some, but they are generally disillusioned with women to begin with and are not interested in dating and moving things towards a relationship. They just want to casually hook up with younger women here and there.
I wanted kids before...but I realize how much of a burden they are and how over-populated this planet is. Besides, I'm not emotionally ready for them and I like my freedom a lot.
People don't truly realize the responsibility...financially and emotionally until they bitch and complain about how hard their life is...even when they fail to see that they chose to bring life into the world.
I will probably have kids, even though I don't particularly want to in the foreseeable future... I'd prefer to be rich enough first so I that my wife can take care of them instead of working and I won't have to do any work in raising them.
I view a lot of the people who say they don't want kids like the people who say they will never get married. Many of those people get married and they never thought they would. Many people who thought they would never have kids end up having kids that they love and it just works.
My point here is that you are young. This is important to you right now, and it very well may stay important to you forever and it may not.
You're young and your opinions are going to change and your situation is going to change. You may always feel like a kid just won't fit into your life and that is just fine and understandable.
However, you may get to a point when you've been married for a while and you've settled down and you may begin to wonder what else there is- that's a point where many people consider kids.
My overall advice is that until you are dating around to find your husband (I hope you aren't because 21 is too damn young to get married), keep the 'no children" thing as a silent goal; It really isn't something to bring up on a first date or anything really in the beginning. For now have fun and don't stress about finding someone who doesn't want kids. They are out there but I think you are either going to need to look at older guys or you are going to need to wait for guys to mature and age a bit to decide where they want their lives to go.
I don't want children either. I enjoy living a free life! I don't believe I need to have children to validate my existence as a woman, or my life or because society deems "children making" as a job that every woman must fulfill.
You realize that people change their values as time goes on, right? And that the people who have the same values as a teenager/ person in their 20's need to grow up, because only a man-child would want to be with a woman-child. But hey, if that's how you want to live, who am I to judge?
To answer your question, there are tons of man-childs roaming around. Look for the guy in his late 20's/ early 30's hanging out in clubs wearing Abercrombie and Fitch hitting on the 18 year olds. He probably doesn't have a career, unless you count being a trust fund baby, working for your father, or here-and-there construction jobs being a career.