Well it depends on a lot of things. How long are you together? How well do you know his family? What exactly do you mean by click? Do you get along but have little in common or are you coming from a completely different perspective than they are e.g they're religious you're not. When it comes to families it can be tough especially when he's close to them. My fiance is very close to his family, whereas I was brought up to be independent and so couldn't understand their relationship. I have become very close to his family eventhough at the start I thought we had nothing in common. Some aspects still get on my nerves like the spoiling of his youngest sister like she's 12 when's she's actually 27. We actually had a massive argument over it because I felt as though his family were always going to be his number one priority and I don't play second fiddle to no one
You will have to stick with your guns and let him know what you're comfortable with. Its fantastic that he has such a great relationship with them but he has to realize in order for your relationship to blossom it needs room to breathe.
As I've never been in this situation, my only suggestion is to just be nice and respectful. Try to bond with each of his relatives over something, no matter how small it is. Even if you can only form a nice bond with one person, that's still a good start. Just remember to show repect and be nice, and everything else should follow eventually.
no offense he needs to grow up and depart his relationship life with his family life. Family is important but if he want to start a family of his own some day he needs to put you first. don't change just to fit into his family if they don't like you tough luck he chose you not another whore
This is a good question. I'm a family guy and I enjoy spending time with my family. I've noticed some girls I date can't be left alone in the same room with my family. To me that is a big redflag. If a girl can't be comfortable around my family alone then it isn't going to work. On holidays if I left the room she would follow me. It was like having a child who was insecure.
If you really love this guy you can try. Put yourself out there and don't be afraid to be yourself. You don't have to impress anyone. You just have to be a good person. And remember don't take things his family says or does personally. Sometimes, people need to be around others long enough just to understand them.
The family will not drown you. You will drown yourself if you hold back.
i don't know but he might not spend as much time with them if you were married but it is important to get along with boyfriends family . its sort of a tough one to figure out , we can understand why its an issue for you
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I'm not proud of it but partly why I ended a 6-year relationship was because I didn't click with her family. They were nice people, we always enjoyed pleasant conversations and polite jokes but a little boring and for some unknown reason I just didn't enjoy being around them much. It's ok in small doses early on, but there's a possibility these could be the grandparents to your kids. No kid deserves boring grandparents.
Try to get to know his family. Figure out why you and his family don't get along. Try to fix it and maybe they would invite you on an extended vacation. And about his free time, if you honestly feel like he doesn't spend enough time with you, tell him you feel a little left out and he'll probably understand.
just be as nice as possible it will make him think more positive about you and if you are not negitive then his family has nothing to not like about you. if they still don't like you after that then let him know in a kind way how you feel. becasue remeber its always family first and if you don't approuch this the smart way you might lose this man
If you're OK with them that's fine. You don't have to be best friends. As long as there's no tension, it's no problem. Not all families are perfect.
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