White girl meeting my Asian boyfriend's parents for first time in Hong Kong?
Hi guys, I've recently started dating my boyfriend, we've been going out for about 2 & a half months now, & we like each other very much. He's... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
Learning Cantonese was a good move. :p Just be extra polite and be more serving, stepping aside kind of thing and always pay attention incase anyone is talking to you. If you miss it, that's huge disrespect. I live in Australia too and even with how washed out my Asian culture is, those are the main points I can give you. When eating, they usually have the dishes in the middle and you take from that, make sure that you only take a little bit at a time because if you take a lot at a time, or enough for the whole meal, they'll see it as rude.
What Guys Said 3
Woohoo, score one for Asian guys.
I don't understand how some of his family doesn't speak English, Hong Kong was an ENGLISH colony. Be very aware that Asia is a chauvinist society and they expect women to be submissive. Be careful.
Say this to them...
That should sum it up.
What Girls Said 6
Try to be sweet and demure. They don't like a girl to act like she wants to control things. It's most important that you be polite, considerate, and sweet.
Also, the more Cantonese you learn, the more impressed they will be :)
You will be fine, just make sure to dress feminine and conservative, too. You can always ask your boyfriend for tips, too. Also do some online research about Chinese etiquette and confirm them with your boyfriend.
A friend of mine brought her bf's mom a gift of high end tea, the really good stuff. I understand they love tea and spend time having conversations while sipping it. She absolutely loved it.
www.teavana.com has some really nice gift sets and tea accessories that I believe his mother would appreciate, especially since she could share it with everyone else.
Here is a great link that gives you a really good idea of the culture, what they expect and what you should expect.
Good luck and have fun!
Hi, I am Cantonese girl.
But I don't know much about gifts. I know how to behave when you meet his parents.
Most of Chinese parents hope to see their son in law is a submissive, not ambious and very kind, nice person. Polite is very important. If you are eating at their house, after the meal, you should try to initiate to wash the dishes (Although they don't need you to). But if they have their own maid, of because you don't need to do that.
And I am telling you, Hongkongese parents always like the girl be humble and submissive, better listen to your boyfriend's mother, what she said, you'd better nod, and give good comments.
I'm a Hongkonger too (or used to be I guess lol)
Like others have said, politeness is so very important. When meeting his grandparents, I would say to hold off on hugging. Maybe like a combination between a handshake/hand hold lol. I think it would be best to follow your boyfriend's lead, just because he knows his family best. As for the gift, either a fruit basket or some Chinese dried goods (e.g. dried Chinese mushrooms, dried scallops, ginseng etc...i'm sure you'll be able to find a lot when you arrive in HK and I think this will probably impress them). It's awesome that you're learning Cantonese, I'm sure his family will appreciate it. And even if they start talking in Chinese and you don't understand, just nod (haha) and ask your boyfriend to translate later :p
Meeting the parents isn't necessarily a prequel to an engagement..but he definitely sounds serious about you :).
Asians tend to kiss white people's asses so they'll probably adore you.