Be mature about this.
Okay - so you live with your mother, but that doesn't force her involvement with your boyfriend. I understand in an ideal world that yes, you'd like your parents to approve of your partner, but sometimes it just takes a bit of time.
As things are in the situation you're in - make it easier for yourself by keeping those parts of your life kind of seperate. Not extremes, but maybe not having him round you place. Maybe not inviting him to family functions if you know there will be tension, things like that.
And then just let time mend the rest. She might not approve of his look - but if you two last together for long enough, and you're happy together. Most people will see the difference, and warm to him. So it's likely your mother will do the same. Explain you're an adult, you love her, but don't seek her approval. You're capable of making your own decisions, and are dating this guy based on the way he treats you. Despite his looks, he's a good guy and treats you well - better than the previous men you've dated. And whilst you don't expect her immediate approval, you'd appreciate her to accept your decision.
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I am going through the exact same situation right now with my parents. They haven't even met the guy but don't allow him to come over to the house (except to pick me up) because of his tattoos. Last night we went out and got home around 130, since he is not allowed in the house we sat outside on the curb and went for a walk. I feel ya girl, it sucks. But I am learning just to enjoy time with him regardless of their approval. Parents are pretty headstrong and I think part of the reason your mother isn't giving him a chance is because she might actually warm up to him and hate admitting she was wrong. As childish as that sounds that's how I feel in my situation. So in conclusion, just do your thing. Do not let their opinions affect the way you see him and be with who you want. Can't please everyone in life so might as well please yourself!
don't listen to that maniac Konnour down there. he's insane. he doesn't know what his talking about. you are right not to live with this boyfriend of yours - it's just too soon.
now, I really don't know what do you wanna hear. just ignore her. that's the only thing that you can do.
does she know that he's a nice guy?
If you're not lying about your age and if your parents have no law-given rights to choose who you marry... you can just tell her to f... to stop freaking out.
You're an adult.
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