Hi, I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few months now, and I'm really, really into her. We don't live in the same town (I'm in Edinburgh and she's in the scottish borders), so I don't see her nearly as often as I'd like, but we usually chat most nights, on msn or on the phone, or whatever. When we first decided we were going out together, she was a bit apprehensive about the distance, but I promised her we'd make it work. Anyway, we were chatting last week, and I said, in as many words, that I was a bit frustrated at not seeing her so much, forgetting what I promised when we first got together. Now, she isn't the most self-confident soul, which cuts me up, because I think she's just the sweetest, most beautiful girl in he world. Because of how I said it, I think she took it the wrong way, and now she like, seriously thinks I don't want to be with her - which is what I want more than anything. I made her feel like shit, and I feel absolutely terrible, because firstly I want her to feel great, and secondly I want her to know how much I love her. Now she won't even talk to me - I've texted her, emailed her, she hardly answers my calls, and when she does she hangs up after a few seconds, before I can say anything. I really don't know what to do - I don't want to let her go, because I really care about her - I think I love her, and she's all I think about, but I don't know what to do to get her back. Please help! Any answers much appreciated, thank you.
I pissed off my girlfriend, and now she won't talk to me?
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I think she is being a little unfair in not even speaking to you, no matter what you said, if you have really texted-called-and e-mailed her this much and she has not responded even to tell you she's mad, that's a little silly.
I agree with Junius. If you have a weekend, drive out to see her, or buy a bus ticket. Take some flowers, look up a nice restaurant in her town and take her out.
Don't have the cash to do that? Do you have her address? It is always nice to get mail that isn't from the BANK. Send her a love letter! handwritten! apologize and tell her exactly how you feel.
If you are frustrated with the distance, telling her shouldn't ruin things, you are frustrated because you want to be able to hold her and kiss her and SHOW her you love her in all the ways you can't over the phone-internet.
If she still won't talk to you, well, her loss. Know you love her, but if she really won't respond at ALL- and hangs up on you after onyl a few seconds... maybe she's feeling the frustrations of long distance also.
-Moving to Auberdeen? is this closer to her or farther from her? How will your move affect things later down the line? will it make them worse? you are young, and university is a hard time to be attatched to someone so far away. make sure you are both really willing to commit. try to plan to see each other at least once a month. Drive and meet each other in the middle for dinner. short, but oh so sweet!
-Good luck! I hope you two can make it work!
Texts, phone calls, emails, all so technological. Also, all so easy to ignore. I'm not entirely sure how far your city is from where she lives, but I would try the good old fashion "please take me back" plea. No matter what they say, girls love the corny stuff. If I were you, and I cared about someone as much as you say you do, I would take a road trip, get some flowers. RIght now she is feeling the stress of the long distance relationship. She wants to know that you are willing to go out of your way for her. I had a long distance relationship a year ago. I broke it off because I couldn't handle the stress. My guy was devastated. So, show her you care, and don't let her think that she's just a hobby of yours.
Send her one last email. Explain yourself, explain your feelings, let he rknow how much you then tell her your going to give her some time to decide what she wants. end it with I'm always thinking of you and I love. Then leave her alone for a week. If nothing happens, no response, then send a friendly email asking how she is... No response after that then you know that she has decided for it ot be over. But you need to explain to her what you ment and how you feel. She's ignoring you because she feels rejected by you because of what you had said. Let her know that what you said isn't what she thinks it ment. I hope this helps you out in some way. Good luck!