I've known her for nearly two years and we became great friends. We actually are a group of three best friends, I´ve known the other girl for like 5 years and she has a boyfriend.
Well, a couple of weeks ago she and I were at a restaurant having lunch (my other friend wasn't there because she was busy) and she confessed to me that she is a lesbian and that she has a crush on a girl she met a couple of months ago. She also made it very clear that she feels no attraction towards me or my friend and that is the reason why she became friends with us.
I told her it was OK and that it didn't matter much, she is going to be my best friend no matter what.
I have nothing against that, it´s just that I have one problem.
My mother hates lesbians and always warned me against even being close to one of them. I am 100% straight not even curious about lesbianism so I´m confident about that.
However, I never had a boyfriend (I´m 23) and my parents asked me a couples of months ago (before I knew about my friend) if I was dating her because I was spending too much time with her! I never had a boyfriend because I´m very picky and the “dates” I had turned out horribly. Basically, guys just want to have sex with me and then go back to their girlfriends. And I don´t want that. So unless I meet a guy who respects me I´m not going to just date anyone who is available.
I used to be very shy in high school and didn't really have many friends and they always bugged me about making friends and going out and having fun and not staying home all day long.
Well, I had the immense luck of finding two wonderful friends and I go out with them and have fun and go to bars and restaurants and different places and I love spending time with them and now my parents think I´m a lesbian!
Now, I feel weird or guilty hanging out with her alone because I keep hearing my mother´s voice in my head.
What do I do?
Is my mother right? Will I be a lesbian if I hang out with one? I know it´s crazy, but she makes me really confused.
I seriously don´t know how to handle this and my therapist is on vacation so the other option left is girlsaskguys
Well, a couple of weeks ago she and I were at a restaurant having lunch (my other friend wasn't there because she was busy) and she confessed to me that she is a lesbian and that she has a crush on a girl she met a couple of months ago. She also made it very clear that she feels no attraction towards me or my friend and that is the reason why she became friends with us.
I told her it was OK and that it didn't matter much, she is going to be my best friend no matter what.
I have nothing against that, it´s just that I have one problem.
My mother hates lesbians and always warned me against even being close to one of them. I am 100% straight not even curious about lesbianism so I´m confident about that.
However, I never had a boyfriend (I´m 23) and my parents asked me a couples of months ago (before I knew about my friend) if I was dating her because I was spending too much time with her! I never had a boyfriend because I´m very picky and the “dates” I had turned out horribly. Basically, guys just want to have sex with me and then go back to their girlfriends. And I don´t want that. So unless I meet a guy who respects me I´m not going to just date anyone who is available.
I used to be very shy in high school and didn't really have many friends and they always bugged me about making friends and going out and having fun and not staying home all day long.
Well, I had the immense luck of finding two wonderful friends and I go out with them and have fun and go to bars and restaurants and different places and I love spending time with them and now my parents think I´m a lesbian!
Now, I feel weird or guilty hanging out with her alone because I keep hearing my mother´s voice in my head.
What do I do?
Is my mother right? Will I be a lesbian if I hang out with one? I know it´s crazy, but she makes me really confused.
I seriously don´t know how to handle this and my therapist is on vacation so the other option left is girlsaskguys
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