He likes me, I know this. But he insists on pretending to want to be my friend, while still flirting and trying to "sweep me off my feet". I don't like him, I most likely never will. What the hell do I do?
He is kind and nice, but I don't respect him as a man, hence I can't be attracted to him.
Now I think he is a good person, I don't hate him for his behavior, but I don't want to accept his friendship knowing he likes me. I know he wouldn't think of me as a friend if he wasn't interested in me.
I can't tell him to stop talking to me. I can't reject UNSPOKEN feelings. What do I do to spare his time and feelings? If it best just to avoid him now?
We go to college together. Same dorms, same library, similar classes.
You can still be nice to him, while "rejecting" him. People are human and have feelings. He obviously likes you. If he tries to talk to you, keep it short and say you have to go, or make sure to have other people in the conversation, and then you slowly walk away. There's plenty of things you can do to friendly avoid a person. Good luck.
well the poor guy is under the impression that doing everything for you will earn your respect as a nice man... of course you girls don't beleive they exist so of course you won't respect him as a man. Its good youve realized it though most girls don't lol
yeh ignore him and break all contact its better than trying to be mates with him, cause a guy who wants to be nice will just accept the attention as romantic or special to him etc. it will do him better in the long run
You have to talk to him, tell him how you feel about your so called friendship. You should no longer keep your feelings within as it starts to stress you and can lead up to depression over time due to living a completely "misunderstood" friendship, a total lie. Once you do that, If he accepts to live with the fact of being a loser, it's fine-in case you want a loser buddy as well. I guess you should also ask that question to yourself.
Otherwise, as a stern and necessarily STOIC man, he should know the honor of step away from you and look for his own future. That's the downside of being a man: Always the possibility to being rejected. And the tenacity, the emotional strength and mental endurance are the facts what makes children transform into MEN. No pain, no gain for any man.
You don't respect him and aren't attracted to him. He is still being a friend to you. Tell him you like him as a friend, but it won't go any farther. Let him decide if he wants to be in the friend zone.
You're the most objective girl I've seen in awhile, btw.
It's funny how girls don't respect guys that are actually good guys, but "respect" douche bags and then end up getting strung along, and get into fights with them frequently like it's supposed to be normal in a relationship. Just sayin'.
This guy is probably really great if you get to know him. This sort of thing happens all the time. Girl thinks a guy with feelings for her is a wuss because he has feelings for her. Then thinks guys that don't like her are manly because in actuality they really don't have feelings for you and just spit game at you because they don't care. It can be hard to control emotions when a girl finally comes around that you like. It can be really easy to get sensitive. And especially even more so if you've done something to spark his interest even more.
So sad. Girls are supposed to want loving relationships, but then they turn around and make the most counterproductive choices. Makes you wonder if women really even have a clue...
Well, if you don't like him just put him in the friendz-
From what it sounds like you've already sent him to the friend zone. Unrequited loves run there course, believe me I know I've had plenty of them. Simply let it fester on the back burner and eventually the candle will burn out, if its not tended to from time to time then it becomes nothing but a sad faint attraction. I realize this sounds sad but that's the way it has to be if you're no willing to give him a chance.
but I don't respect him as a man, hence I can't be attracted to him.
Why don't you respect him as a man does he look like a girl?
Tell me bout it. I know exactly how you are feeling. My friend has liked me for ages, even while I was in a relationship. Now my relationship ended, he's playing the comforting friend role and tried to kiss me the other night, like 4 days after my break up! I was so pissed off he would do that, plus I just can't see myself liking him even though he is a good friend. I think the best thing to do is ignore him, even though with stupid male psychology that seems to make guys like you more! Just tell him straight he isn't your type but you respect him as a friend and a friend ONLY. If he doesn't like it then he knows where to go.
Gradually let things trail off.be too busy for him. Or you can introduce him to another cute girl and try to pass him off to her. Don't flirt or be that friendly.talk about other guys. Let him see another guy around you