Maybe she changed her mind, or is on the fence. Could be she was annoyed she had to tell you to kiss her. Perhaps she only wants something casual but the shopping and conversation made her think you want a girlfriend. Unfortunately, the only person who knows the answer is too busy playing games to tell you straight.
Right now you're being super available and demonstrating a willingness to tolerate people who are dishonest and who don't value your time. I'd quit chasing. If she's into you, she'll show it. She can text you first if she wants to talk, or set up plans if she wants to hang out. If she doesn't, that stinks, but at least you'll know where you stand.
Telling her you won't ask her out seems needier than just keeping quiet and doing it, but it's a step in the right direction. If it comes up again in conversation, don't make a big deal about it.
You sound like a decent and conscientious guy. You have lots of other opportunities and you don't need to invest time into flakes. If she grows up, great, but if not, remember that we teach people how to treat us. Good luck.
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Perhaps, she isn't ready for a relationship.
Or she will meet her family's/friend's disapproval when she's finally with you.
You showed her that you were interested.
Now it's her turn to reciprocate that. Usually those "excuses" is a nicer way for her to say "not interested" unfortunately.
She might only see you as a friend, and doesn't want anything more. Or just doesn't want anything from you. Sorry.
Try asking her a couple more times, trying to plan it where she is more likely to be available. And if she doesn't bite, then tell her that to text you when she is free. And that's it. Then you wait.
If nothing happens, I'm sorry dude. Better luck next time. You don't deserve someone who treats you like that anyways.
If she does text you, yippee. Girls do get busy, and we do forget to text back. It isn't always on our mind. However maybe make a group thing with your friends, so it isn't one on one. Maybe she got uncomfortable, shy. That would get her out of her shell if she's a shy one.
I just have to say that Christmas shopping together as a date is a great idea! Good way to get to know each other while checking off your to-do list.
Anyway, to your question: I genuinely feel as though this girl is into you. I highly doubt she would've made out with you and opened up to you if she wasn't. She could very well just be busy and have a difficult time making plans. Or, she could have changed her mind about things (for reasons that don't have to do with you) and doesn't know how to let you down.
It's good that you confronted her about it and told her that she has to do the asking out so as to not give you the run around. Back off like you're doing and wait and see if she contacts you.
She could actually be telling the truth. But yeah, I feel you when you say you get frustrated making plans with her, and then when it's time to go at the last minute she'll flake out or something will come up. I just say give it time, let her plan and schedule something to do. If she decides to or not, you'll at least get a take where you both stand.
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Sometimes I make plans without thinking through my schedule. That could be it. When I make the plan I genuinely want to hang out then think fuuuuuuuuck.
You can predict the future by looking at the past and this will probably continue because people don't change. If you're annoyed she always cancels don't go any further.if I liked a guy enough, hell . it wouldn't matter how busy I am. ima make damn sure I spend time with my guy.
you've tried meeting up again, that's a no go. now it's her turn trying to make a day to meet up.Let her contact you. Sounds like she was frustrated and you made it seem like you were not interested in kissing her.
you should stop txting her and talking to her on fb just take care of you. when she wants to reach out to you then she will. give her a taste of her own medicine and keep yourself busy too. you shouldn't have to chase her.
Girls do that when they are not interested its their way of putting it off nicely
Her canceling and NEVER texting you first is a red flag. Maybe she likes you but if she does then she has a messed up way of showing it.
My think she's not interested
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