Girls, can I message a random girl on Facebook just to get to know her as a friend?

[Double_O_69]

Do you girls like it, if a friendly guy just wanted to talk to you and get to know you better, even though you never met, but hey he wants this an option to get to know people.

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This is so awesome, thank you for all the answers. I see that there is a 50/50 chance that girls will talk to me on Facebook, without meeting each other in real life. Of course for the ones who say its okay I am so happy girls like you would give a guy a chance. I am going out and meeting women, but when there is down time; like 2 in the morning and no party to go to, I need some other way to spend time meeting people. For the ones saying it's not okay well, we will never cross worldslol Thank u

[bijinbijinbijin]

why not just try a dating website? Its more expected that a girl is gonna recieve friendly messages from strangers who are also looking for friends/hook ups like you are. Pof.com and okcupid.com are good free ones. Try Meetup.com if you want to meet a group of friends.

its sort of like, how you don't go looking for a wife in the club, everyone in the club is there to dance,show off their bodies for attention, and get girls to go home with them. That's just the way it is and the atmosphere. If you sincierally tried to ask a girl at the club to be your wife, she is gonna think you are a drunk creep. Its just the wrong time/place

You don't go looking for a new car at the grocery store do you? You don't go looking for someone to cut your grass at your doctors office do you?

you don't go looking for "just friends" with a total stranger on Facebook. Its suspecious. Many girls use it just to connect with their own friends and distant friends, people they know. I use it for bussiness and have over 4000 friends and get 100 request daily, I can't use Facebook for personal things. Many strange guys use it to try and harrass girls they don't know.This one guy sent a pic of his penis to one of my friends, she only added him because she thought he was interested in her business. Its just the wrong time/place for "just friends"

the only girls that will entertain a message from a total stranger who is clearly hitting on her is one who is either bored for the moment and wants attention but eventually she will loose interest in the conversation. Or She is just a total creep herself.

Use logic, don't be thirsty.

[Double_O_69]

Your right, BUT as a man going to dating website is a complete waste of time. Not because I don't want to, it's because it is extremely impossible to get a date on those things. Seriously it took me 5,000 messages to get a date with a girl, and we did become boyfriend and girlfriend lol. but 5,000?! It was nothing I said wrong, nothing about my face lol it was because there are WAY to many men messaging girls. This in turn makes women have A LOT of options. It's like being rich, and buying your favorite car.

[kia58]

Now that's silly. If you are just after friends and want to "meet people" as you claim, why only girls? Why not talk to random guys and bypass the possible problems, that will inevitably come from their presumption you are looking for a girlfriend.

Unless of course, their presumption is right. Meaning, you are looking for a girlfriend, but are too scared to do so openly. Which translates to, you are looking to be friend zoned.

And no girl needs more of that nonsense.

Or am I wrong?

Advice: If you like her, talk to her, but show interest. If someone drops the word "friend" in there after a while of knowing each other, it's not looking great.

In the end, don't let it be you. Flirt. And if you do add a random girl, let them at least an acquaintance.

Just adding a completely random girl you don't know, IS creepy. She knows nothing about you and you are basically requesting access to all her private data. Imagine it was off-line. Would you tell everything about yourself to a complete stranger and share some pictures to top it off?

[bijinbijinbijin]

it might work for some girls, but it doent work for me. I just have no interest in trying to meet guys on Facebook. I might chat with you if we have a bunch of mutaul friends, or if I heard about you, or have seen you around, but if you are just a total stranger, then no. I figure that most guys who do that are not really interested in getting to know me as a person, they are just trying to be discreet about trying to get some booty. I also figure that they have hit up many girls they don't know on Facebook too just to see which one will take the bite.

I have had guys randomly say "damn girl you sexy!" and "how you doing beautiful?"

right then and there I know you are not being serious. Its like cat calling if I were to just be out in public walking and a guy yells at me "damn girl you sexy!", I gnore it then and I will ignore it on Facebook.

[Gawesome]

probably not completely random...if there's mutual friends..then sure. But it depends on how social she is.

Just be chill, FUNNY and nice and it SHOULD be fine. No different than talking to a girl in real life. Gotta get her trust, relaxed and comfy. Easy on the flirty business right away or else she'll assume you're a creeper. Oh and keep your fb profile clean and appropriate. It's no different than a dating profile on a dating site. If you're gonna friend random peeps, they'll peruse your profile to get a feel of who you are if they're the curious type.

Funny enough, I did this a few times but not as friends...its more random/funny thing than anything. I saw a friend of mine flirting heavily with this cute girl who I don't know on their wall post (so it was public) so I decided to have some fun...cockblocked him on his wall post, msged her to say something funny, and attempted to friend her to get to know her. :P (yea...i'm such a sleazy brat. :P)

[Jack00700]

This kind of happened to me sort of, I managed to look at my ex gfs messages, this random guy started to chat her up, her replies were flirty and there was no hint of saying she already had a boyfriend, he even asked her to send pics of her so he could 'see' her better and she did. I think to myself everyday what was she thinking and why did she jest on me with a random stranger. I've been with her for 5 years. I agree with most replies on here that it is pretty creepy the whole idea and something I won't do as their intentions are usually to hook up.

[Godhuntress]

As long as it seems like genuine interest (not in looks) and it's not creepy, it's fine. Some may not like it, but I'm certain that some also will like it. I personally hate hearing words like 'dear' and 'honey' from strangers, so I don't recommend that.

[Double_O_69]

lol Your right hun (just kidding). Yeaha lots of guys do this, because guys are not sure on how to talk to a girl you know. For myself I never call a girl honey etc because it's just socially wrong. I do however compliment on her personality, never on her looks. If its looks, she has to call me cute first. ;) or hunny; then I'll say it back. Any who I just make conversation with things that we are both interested in; & that's it. lol The rest from there sometimes becomes the "it just happened":)

[grnylw51]

I did this once...I was a fan of an amusement park and made a comment on a post. Well this guy who worked there mustve liked my comment/something and added me. I accepted because I thought it would be cool to talk to an employee there and maybe we could be friends and so on. So I messaged him just saying hi and what he did where he worked and he didn't reply right away until 2am that night. I was still up but about to go to bed and he said he wanted some company in his bed and other stuff... I said I didn't do that blocked him, and then went to bed. I mean if it happened again and as long as you were around the area where I am I may add you but if your in like california and friending me and I'm in ohio I likely won't add you. Hope this helps!

[Lifesbeautiful]

If its a random guy I have NEVER met or isn't a mutual friend with someone I know, then I've never replied or friended them. I find it a little creepy and don't like it...

Now my social interest on the other hand sends friend requests all the time to random girls that will like his comment that he made on some picture or page, etc and they all accept it and he becomes good friends with them. A little jealous and annoying but oh well. It obviously works!

Some girls will accept you like the girls who accepted my guys and some girls won't accept ... like me. I guess it all depends...

[Anonymous]

The way I see it, something really good or really bad would happen. She could be creeped out and ignore you/block/unfriend you, which isn't that bad if you don't mind rejection. Or, she would be flattered that you thought of her and you could start a nice relationship. Just don't say anything awkward or creepy. Also, I'm friends with people on Facebook who I don't know; I probably friended them because I thought they were hot. So I, personally, would die of joy if some hot guy who I'm friends with but I don't know talked to me. What I'm trying to say, is go for it, because first of all, the worst that could happen is she would block/ignore you, and second, it's not like you would ever see her in public, so it wouldn't be that awkward.

[Travelover8]

Depends on how you go about it. If you message this girl constantly and call her names like cutie, its creepy. If you message her sometimes and just causally talk and maybe hint at hanging out, then its fine. Maybe even say, I'm just working on my social skills and trying to get to know more people

[bijinbijinbijin]

i agree with this, it could work if you make it known that your intentions are pure.

[Kendra2014]

If they are a friend of your friend then it's not as creepy. But, If it's just some random chick on Facebook that has no connections to you then yeah it's a bit odd. Maybe she's cool with it, every girl is different. Try and talk to her, there really is no loss because you don't know who she is or what she's like and it's not like you would see her face to face if it doesn't work out in your favor anyway.

[Living-the-ADvenTURe]

Real life is always best. It's a turn off if a guy lacks courage to get to know me in real life. Do you get to see her around anywhere? If yes, that is the best way to try and talk with her. If no, then make the Facebook chats only a way to lead up to you asking her to hang out. You most certainly should be getting to know her in person rather than online if you are serious about getting to know her.

[rdrgzjcqln]

Personally, no. It makes you seem "thirsty" (at least that's what they call it nowadays) 99% of the time the female will not answer. I would pucker up some courage and talk to this chick in person.. That is.. If you actually have seen her. You want to get to know people go out and socialize or go on a dating website. Facebook is just too creepy.

[jadeygurl]

I sent someone a friend request that I had never met in person because we had mutual friends and he looked like a cool guy. Ended up becoming one of my best friends that I hung out with every night. Great dude.

[Hannah591]

I don't mind it but I usually get the wrong idea and think that he's talking to me because he likes me so it's always a good idea to clarify your intentions from the beginning.

[DutchAtheist]

Won't that be "coming on too strong"? I thought you were supposed to first get to know each other?

[Hannah591]

The main thing which makes me think that a guy likes me is when he compliments me a lot, talks to me a lot and sends me loads of kisses. If they just talk to me, without those three things, then I usually just think they like me as a friend. :)

[Double_O_69]

I will be talking to her a lot then lol.

[Yarah0]

Yes you can! you're not asking her to marry you, you're just wanting to get to know her as a friend so I don't why not, try not to be weird with her though and try to make her feel comfortable and not like your some stalker or something, a lot of girls won't accept someone they don't already know but things might change depending on the other person's personality.

[Anonymous]

You can but if it was me, I normally ignore random guys... FB is not a plc to meet and get to know ppl. I don't even approve of people I hardly talk to eventhough I sort of know them, what more to say random people. All the best on expanding your friends circle though.

[Anonymous]

i see no problem with that. a guy approached me that way and now I've actually grown to really like him. just don't act all thirsty when you first talk. no babe, hun, sexy or anything like that. and you know, you can tell her outright, I knw you don't know me but I nothing wrong with talking to someone new right. That way you turn on the bitch filter at once to see if she's worth your time or if she'll snob you.

[amber2567]

Sure. That's how I met my current boyfriend of over a year!(: As long as you aren't one of those guys that just wanna see her naked haha.

[PrincessToadstool]

I rarely reply to males on Facebook because when I do is instantly them trying to be creepy. If you want to get to know a girl, try engaging on convo on her statuses so she can see you're a normal guy, not some perv.

[JmeLovee]

I agree, they creep me out too. I have never once thought this guy must genuinely want to talk. Usually I ignore or say I have a boyfriend then never acknowledge them again lol.

[juneangel6390]

I would automatically assume your a creeper lol sry

[Double_O_69]

:-(

[1diamond]

If it was a random stranger I may be a little freaked out after all it could be anyone. If it was someone I liked, that would be great. If not then maybe not so great.

[teasegirl]

if I'm bored then it would be fun to have someone different talk to me xD

[Anonymous]

Go out and meet people. Meet girls. Facebook is not a place to meet people, it is a place to maintain friendships and share pictures. Facebook is not real life, I don't know when it became so.

[bijinbijinbijin]

i agree