Well, as a guy I become friends with girls for two different reasons. 1.) I don't find them attractive, but they want to be a friend and they are a good person so I'll befriend them. 2.) I find them attractive and they're a good person so being a friend is just fine, but my libido is telling me to make a move and see if we can become more than just friends. If she denies me, then I'd have no problem with just being their friend as I know how to move on. Now, for me, that's it. However, for some guys there is a 3rd reason. 3.) Find the girl attractive so befriend them as a way to get to know them a bit better, and if they aren't crazy then make a move and become more than just friends. If this doesn't work and they aren't attracted to me in that way, then I'm either done being friends with them, or I'll be persistent (because people tell me girls like guys that are persistent) and one day she will be my girlfriend.
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(1) Anyone with friends of the opposite gender will come to a point were some of their friends become attractive or have friends attracted to them. This is life, stuff happens.
(2) Some of those guys became friends with you in the first place BECAUSE they liked you in the first place. Some still do but can't keep going because you don't like them back or because of competition and low self-confidence.
(3) You could be just that good. 'Nuff said.
(4) You could be giving off the impression that you like them and they are responding to that. A "OMG hey Charlie!" followed by a very big hug might seem friendly and normal to you, but to him an act of flirting. Women can put out mixed signals and men suck at analyzing them.
There are many reasons why.
Maybe you're naturally flirty and they respond to that. I've noticed that a lot of people have different interpretations of flirting, a lot of people flirt without ever even realizing it. Some people think someone is flirting when they're really not.
Also, maybe they befriended you already liking you, that's a BIG possibility.
Proximity and closeness. They're around you a lot and that's why they eventually fall for you. Example is the boss and secretary. They have to be in close quarters with each other everyday so, then, it's just mere exposure effect that pushes them together.
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Maybe they ended up falling for you in the process of being friends with you?
Sometimes they feel a chemistry in process.
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