I did, and for the longest time I thought I would be doomed to stay in it. It takes patience and persistence. I put myself out there and was there for her, for nearly an entire year. A few months in I made the mistake of saying I had feelings for her, and she told me "im sorry, I see you as just a friend, and that isn't ever going to change." Doomed right? well, I just kept going on being there for her like nothing changed (which was hard); even sat through her hooking up with a guy and being his sort of girlfriend for a whiole (also, very hard) but then inevitably he made her mad, and I was there to listen. One day, she told me that sometimes she wants to kiss me, and we are 6 months into our relationship. How did I escape? Not by saying "ill be there for you, give me a chance to show you", I lived that sentence via action. yes, a year is a long time, but in my eyes she is worth it all. Eventually, her own memories of that year told her "he is always there for me, he is for reals. No guy just wanting me for sex would spend a year as my best friend, even after I rejected him" (what she said her mental process was). The more unbelievable it got (me being there for her, hanging out with her a few times a week, or going hiking with her) the more she saw that I meant my words when I said that she means a lot to me. Thats what made her take me out of the friendzone and realize that was falling in love with me for reals.
In short: don't give up, be genuine, and PATIENCE. We're talking at least a year of dedication to successfully escape the friendzone. It will be painful. It will be brutal. You will see her potentially get intimate with other guys before you. If you, the reader say "man, forget that, no girl is worth all that" well my friend, THAT is why you are still in the friendzone.
Some of you have good lines already., the "I'll be there to___". To you, the reader, I say take all the lines you use. Now make them happen in real life as her best friend. Trust me. Once she has a year or so of positive memories of you cherishing her, she will notice.
yes. a girl I met one night at a concert and we slowly became friends eventually we hooked up and dated.
There was never any real initial romantic connection so I never felt like I was in the friend zone for the initial 6 or so months we were friends. Only around 3 weeks before we started dating and I realized that I was really into her did I feel like I was in the friend zone
...don't know why you got the low ratings. not sure what people could object to in this question
I don't believe in the friend zone I think that's just a cop off excuse guys make when a girl doesn't wanna be with them. If a girl doesn't find you attractive or doesn't find anything special in you for her to date but she likes hanging out with you of course she's not gonna date you but keep you as a friend. There's no way to escape that. If she doesn't like you she doesn't like you. Things change though so maybe she starts falling for you with time or she finally feels that spark etc and she ends up liking you. I don't friend zone my guy friends even though I haven't been romantically involved with any of them. That doesn't mean I couldn't. Some of them I couldn't however because there just not my type. I have a friend that I'm friends with because he is really funny bit I could never be anything else with him because that's the only positive trait I see in him. He's also really short. Some of them though probably maybe but were just friends. I had a crush on one of my guy friends before just recently actually but it didn't turn into anything. I never told him I like him. But even if I dif and he rejected me I wouldn't say I been friend zoned because even if we weren't friends I don't think that would make a difference. If someone isn't attracted to you then there not attracted to you. I don't think if he was attracted to me being his friend would be a deal breaker I think that's bull sh*t and I will not ever make such pitty excuses to myself.
hmm...in a similar situation...when I get a response Ill comment. Typically men I friend zone I never go back on that. However, not every woman is the same. It depends on how hard you work to get her. Also attraction plays a part too. If she is not attracted to you in the you are just no cute I could never have sex with you way then don't even bother trying. Typically women go by what they hear and if you look decent and she is not shallow then give it a try.
I use to friend zone my current boyfriend. I didn't do it purposely, I just never noticed him. He was only a good friend to me. Put yourself more out there! And if you are there for her in her time of need she will realize you are the one for her. My boyfriend and I have been together five years and known each other for ten.
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I almost escaped from the friend zone, once. Nearly had it, but flubbed up at the last moment.
A classmate of mine married a guy she had previously friend zoned, though.
Does it happen? Once in a while, sure, but it's definitely the exception when it does.
You can learn to avoid being Friend-Zoned in the first place, and you'll be far better off that way.
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I chose yes because my current boyfriend and I used to just be friends, we were friends for maybe 2 years before he asked me out.
Have a house and a two year old and he is still my best friend.
I did get into a relationship with a guy I'd previously friend-zoned. It didn't last, for reasons unrelated to our past friendship, but... he got out, at least! So it happens.
In my experience, the friend zone = she's just not that into you. Sorry! (And the same when the situation's reversed). Easier to just accept it and move on. Nothing worse than a guy who just won't get the hint that as nice as he is as a friend, you just don't feel you guys are 'relationship compatible'. And I'm saying this as someone who has been on both ends of this.
there was a guy I liked and was dating but I guess he didn't see me the way I saw him so he friend zoned me lmao but now that I'm over it he's texting me everyday and sending mesagges with ;) and heart so I think its just about timing I guess
The girls that did friend zone me have their reasons, but I never climbed out of the friend zone into a relationship. Once friend zoned, I stop pursuing that girl and work on improving myself and looking for the next girl.
Yeah I was totally friend zoned he was tutoring me and asking me to help him with a girl he liked. after a while I told him to get it over with. and he said he wanted to try Since then I finally was out of the friend zone!
It's possible, but generally unlikely because if they have put you in the friend zone they generally don't find you all that attractive.
Not necessarily. I can definitely turn a friendship in which I'm 'friend-zoned ' into a FWB type thing, which I do often, but I have never gone from the friend zone into an actual romantic relationship.
Is it possible to be friend-zoned in a sexual friendship, meaning you will only be best friends who have sex?
I sleep with my best guy friends, but I feel like I could never be married with kids to any of them.
its not exception based. for girls there is more gray area. sometimes friendzoning is circumstantial so just wait it out.
I voted A because I put my now-bf in the friend zone when we first became friends.
The guy I am havng feelings for these days was once a solid member of my friend zone.
yes, it's a good start, when it's a start (not the your place after 10 years, generally.)
No it always seems too hard and then it is awkward that you like her and she only sees you as a friend.
my boyfriend got out of the friend zone and it was hard for hi but he did it and I'm so glad he did(:
My ex, he was friend zoned with me and at least 4 other girls. It took effort but it worked.
Nope I am hardly in the friend zone
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