Well for the past year I thought my guy best friend (who I've known for years) liked me, and he subconsciously flirts with me, and he treats me the way he used to treat his girlfriend (now his ex), and he's always touching me (my hair, my hands, my arms, my body), teasing me, it was nearly obvious that he liked me (and he did like me in the past when we first met but I didn't like him then). He talks to me for hours and hours and calls me special, and I know he enjoys my company. we enjoy a generous amount of the same things. he wants to do a lot of things with me in his life that take commitment. I thought I was on the right track, and for new years we even stayed in my bed together all night watching movies and passing out.
So yeah, I thought, this guy has to feel SOMETHING for me, right?
Oh so wrong. He's one of the weirdest guys I've ever met, and he says he had no idea that all of these things he was doing was flirting (trust me it is, I'm not crazy), and he's just socially awkward and incapable of understanding how to treat females or people in general. He can't tell when girls like him. He doesn't know what flirting consists of. He just "naturally" craves physical contact with people, and since I'm a close person in his life, he does it to me. After confessing my feelings to him he said that he didn't have "feelings" for me, and that I'm generally in the friendzone and that he would change it if he could, but that they're just not there.
He's attracted to me (Says I'm above an 8/10 on his scale), we spend half of our time talking to each other or doing things together. We love each other, but at the current moment I just love him as like a soulmate type of figure and he loves me as this special best friend that he can treat like a girlfriend but not have feelings for.
He says that everything's fine and he doesn't see me as anything different after telling him, so our friendship isn't "ruined". We're super close and it doesn't matter to either of us. (But I do still want to change how he views me)
How do I get out of this dreaded friendzone before it kills me? Like I plan on being with him forever. And I've kind of concluded this in my mind. Unless like 15- 20 years passes and nothing ever happens between us, I don't think I'll ever love anybody the way I love him.
What can I do?
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will let me tell you that I had the exact same experience "except that I didn't have girlfriend"
the girl liked me after she slept with my friends, actually lots of my friends. it happens after she knew me well and after I knew her well too, so when she confess that to me I told her we are just friends even though that I used to like her and wanted her as girlfriend and she rejected me earlier.
I am socially awkward I guess, when I get rejection, I just start new page and eliminate the girl who rejected me from my future relationship and just have her as a friend and that make it socially easier.
seriously she even start to think that I am gay for not having sex with her even though she slept couple times naked in my bed and I done nothing to her. I told her if she wanna keep the friendship, she shouldn't sleep in my bed with me after parties or bars or whatever cause sometimes I get drunk and kisses her.
after while she got bored and left me even as a friend.
my friends blame me all the time for passing her. the reason I did that is, first she slept with lots of my friend. second she rejected me at first. third I had crush in her friend and you know girls usually don't miss around with guys slept with their girlfriends, am I right?0
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