So my friend is a slut.

[MaryJne]

So this might not really constitute as a question this is maybe more like give your advice what would you do on my scenario

So I have this really close friend and I love her to pieces but as I've gotten to know her

Kind of seeing some sketchy behavior, I really don't approve or want to be involved with it but I also like hanging around with her so

Ex.I pointed out this cute guy whom she never payed any attention to before. Now she's trying to pass moves at him

He's already shown interest in me but if he were to take her up on anything

I wouldn't want to touch him

We're already in our early 20s and her body count is higher than her age

Ironically, she's waiting on Prince Charming to come and sweep her off her feet and give her a ring

She doesn't get why guys only hit her up to f** or never call back to chill after a "one nighter"

She always tells me about how her other friends tell her "she should stop sleeping around or no guy is going to take her seriously"

She thinks they're just judging harshly because they all have boyfriends or finances but I actually agree with them but never comment on it because it's just such an offending topic

& her standards are progressively getting worse

Like her friend has been gone out of town for a month & during that time she'd been hooking up with a guy her friend's dating and really likes

I could give you plenty of other examples but this one says it all.

Currently friends of guys she already hooked up with have been trying to "hang out with her"

And the first thing she asks me is "well do you think that they know"

I'm always like yeah this is a no brainier guys talk

Then she always tries to convince herself that it's okay to just hook up with one more guy even if everyone's option she just asked said NO

Or maybe they don't know and really just want to hang out

It's sad her ex boyfriend dumped her so a lot of her behavior is coming from this

She cries about it all the time

So I don't want to leave her hanging but I also don't know if I can handle anymore of the behavior without being judgmental anymore

Also don't want guys I like to become targets to sleep with because she has no boundaries what so ever "not even within friendship"

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

If it quacks, it has webbed feet, it has a bill, feathers, and can both swim and fly, it is a fucking duck. well, if it fucks anything that moves, and has no moral value about what she does with her body, and with whom, she is a fucking slut... there, simple.

Okay, enough about ducks and sluts... they both annoy me.

You, since you have moral standards, it is best for you to separate yourself from that which opposes your values. I had slut friends too... the male variety. if it had a snatch, they want, or have fucked it... Hell, I have a couple of friends, who are cross cheating, and didn't even know about it... Basically, they were cheating on their wives, with each others' wives. I said, enough is enough, so I disassociated myself, with them. Perhaps, you need to set that friend free. as the old saying goes, "If you love something, set it free...". So, to keep yourself from judging, and to not expose yourself to her depraved, and unscrupulous activities, separate yourself. Simple.

[CellLuddite]

I don't get how there could be a problem of her reputation contaminating yours. Can't you just transfer to your 4 year university and replace all your friends? I'd just sit it out. It's only a matter of time until the next life phase begins and you can just stop talking to her.

[latinapassion]

I had a friend who actually admitted openly to people that she is a slut. Things is, all she spoke about was sex and the girl had 2 child, and she was in her 20s. Not so cute... especially when you have children. Anyways, any guy I like she would try and sleep with them. I also was mistaken by one just by hangjng out with her. I drop that girl as a friend. I was not going to ruin my rep being around a girl like that.

Honestly, in you situation, I wouldn't know what to do. In all a person can only change themselves. If she is not willing to change, then you should drop her as a friend. Just having her as a friend could also ruin your image and make guys think you are like her. I was gojng to say maybe you could introduce her to a nice guy that can make her change but then it would be too risky, because that guy would most like end up getting hurt. I would only hook people up only when I think both have positive qualities. Yikes... she coild probably see a psychologist and see what's wrong with her

[MaryJne]

^^ good point

I was totally thinking "Friends are a reflection of yourself" as I wrote this

I hope people don't think that about me

I might make a with a few random guys when I'm drunk but that's it...'

But The passing moves on the guy I like thing might be the tipping point

[latinapassion]

Yeah, your friends are somewhat a reflection of who you are. I mean in all you and your friends will not agree in everything, but haging out with a slut, just makes you look so low even if you are not one. You starts to feel like one. She seems to have lost standards. You are being use just like toilet paper, they wipe and dispose of you. If she like being trated like toilet paper, then she can do on going that road. So much diseases, hope she is using protection.

[Anonymous]

A lot of girls know they are sluts and the proudly show it. Honestly, she's your friend but she really needs to stop sleeping around with her friends men, that's disgusting and she will lose friendships over stupid guys. And yeah, a lot of guys would not take her seriously and would not want a long term relationship with her. What can you do? Well, not much.. just try and be a good friend. Don't worry about her sex life unless she's screwing your boyfriend.. she's your friend not your lover lol.