If a guy likes a girl a lot will he distance himself from the girl?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

My friend out of nowhere seems like he wants nothing to do with me. I texted him cause I thought I saw him and the text convo was this.

Me: Hey! Are you driving a black little suv? lol

Him: Who is this?

Me: Sara lol

Him: No

Me: Oh wow I made a fool out of myself lmao!

Him: haha why?

Me: I just waved and beeped at a guy that looked exactly like you, and I was even screaming HI thinking it was you, lmao!

He didn't respond, but he's acting nicer to other people. A friend of mine told me he deleted all the contacts out of his phone, and I don't understand the distance? He has always expressed that he liked me a lot, even said he loved me. He stuck up for me a couple of times, and he was just always there for me, as I was for him. He would say flirty things here and there, and he would always flirt with me, but I didn't really look into it.

But now he is just crappy towards me, doesn't text me anymore, I have to be the one to text him and then when I do he's very vague. He is nicer to other girls, but I honestly have done nothing wrong, I just don't know why he wants me out of his life, like out of nowhere? Like all of a sudden? When we have a really good friendship so why would he want to throw that away? Do guys only do that to girls they like a lot or something? What's your take on it? Thanks!

[toouglytobeloved]

what you did wrong (and a lot of girls do wrong) was you started something and you didn't finish it, you need to talk to the guy and tell him how you feel, initiate, and make moves if you want him, and not expect or think the guy has to do everything for you
and from his point a view i think you teased him and played games with him, and he has all the right to act crappy toward you because of it
but anyways when a guy loves a girl and the girl doesn't or "dangles" herself (sorta speak) in front of him guys dont like that

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, I am always conflicted when it comes to relationships. I am always unsure. I thought though we were mutual with being friends, and I just don't want to lose my friend, and I feel bad. But thank you!

[cajun]

did u friendzoned him..

[BrunetteBabe1005]

He claims I friendzoned him :( I thought we were on the same page.

[cajun]

oh.. that means he has feelings for you, and u dont.. ?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I do, but it's complicated :/ like I have way too much going on in my life for me to settle down, but I don't want to lose my friend in the meantime, you know? But he seemed ok with being friends, but yeah it was ever since he said "you friendzoned me" is when he started acting shitty and distant, but oh well, I guess I have to move on or something, but thank you for commenting! :)

[cajun]

If he has true feelings, den, he might know what you are growing through..possible try talk with him and see how it goes..

as for guys, its tough to be part of that zombieland called friendzone. ahh,, they sorta play this game to get some attention...

good luck..

[findingdreamland]

There should be sth. I don't why? Did you ask why he is acting like this?
I am not totally against that he likes you. Man can act weird sometimes when they like someone. It just depends on person.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I worded the question wrong. What I mean is when the guy feels friendzoned form the girl will he start to distance himself form her? Cause he likes her too much? Cause we were always close, and we always talked and now it just seems like he wants nothing to do with me, and he is nicer to other females, when they haven't done shit for him like what I did cause I was a good friend. It's bullshit, but no I can't talk to him about it, cause it's uncomfortable for me, and I know him so well that he would probably lie to me, and not even tell me the truth. He would just say something to pacify me. So it's useless to go to him about it, but thanks.

[findingdreamland]

Answer to your question. It is possible. When you like someone and you can't have him/her causes mix feelings, anger, regret, love, sadness etc He should have changed completely.
So give him some time. Give him some space. He will approach and he has answer. You will see.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

You think? He has been not contacting me at all! He seems to not want anything to do with me! He seems to really not like me, and I don't know why. I am just hurt, cause I lose my best friend and I don't even know why. Thank you though for commenting!

[HandsomeRaj]

1. It's a situation of 'to each his own'
2. Deleting all contacts from his phone? This guy must have a good reason to do so i.e. if not emotional (where he feels let down for some reason) then it's worse i.e. legal (some hassle with some security agency having him under scanner where he doesn't want people in trouble cause their names are on his address book) OR it could well be some kind of a professional screw up that is sucking up all his energy (that can happen the way markets are today)
3. He may not be texting you cause he cares a lot for you and doesn't want you in trouble for being in touch with him (all that unless it's something emotional where he's felt rejected by you OR has heard something about you and another guy or guys that has acted up in his mind - this being least likely however)
4. It will be really wrong to assume anything unless there's a some iota of information on what is exactly happening in his life :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I agree, Raj! It's kinda funny how you said about guys, cause he always thinks I am with a guy or something. Also he defriended a guy we know on Facebook, and it was out of nowhere, and it was after this guy liked my pic, and he was talking to my mom on Fcaebook, lol. Like I

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ooops, didn't mean to send that yet, lol. But Yeah we know the guy, and he deleted him out of nowhere, and it was after he liked my pic and was conversating with my mother on Facebook, lol. I don't know it's odd, but you have really good points! Thank you so much!!! :)))

[HandsomeRaj]

Ah looks like a classic case of juvenile jealousy lol. Everyone has their own way of displaying displeasure, guess this is his :D

And you are always always welcome :)

[martyfellow]

Most likely he'shad a major problem in his life, and that makes him bitter and resentful to EVERYONE he knows. If the disappointment involved a girl friend, he will especially be hostile to all the girls in his life, at least for a while.

Just a guess..since he won't tell you, it must be something really personal and hurtful.

I'm going through something like that right now, so I know how it affects me and my female friends...the same!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, he is going through something major in his life. It's funny how you say about a girlfriend,, cause he is going through a bunch of shit with his ex. Thanks for commenting! You seem to hit the nail right on the head! :)))

[martyfellow]

WEll, I'm having some similar difficulty myself, though not with a girlfriend..more like a girl enemy, but hey..

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Aww, sorry about that, hope everything works out! Thank a lot for answering my question! :)))

[martyfellow]

You mkodern girls!

[DanteSparda]

Just ask him if everything is all right? because you're worried about him.
Maybe he's in the situation where he don't want to involve any other person that's why maybe.
Do you send him messages too often? because guys don't like girls who acts clingy =/

[BrunetteBabe1005]

If anything, I am the opposite. I hardly text him. He always was the one to text me first, so I never had to do it first, haha. But you're probably right he's just in a bad place, and maybe I should check back him later...like a month form now, lol. Thank you! :))

[Shockerr]

Yeah i tend to act weird around the girl i like and sometimes try to avoid being around her why? because i wouldn't know what to say to her or how to approach her. Try avoiding your friend for a couple of days and see if he says hey! or something. He will eventually realize that he is not talking to you anymore and hopefully everything goes back to normal, but if you have known him for a long time i don't understand why he will avoid you.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I've known him for 2 years and everything was going great! Our friendship was really good and we knew we could count on one another, but all of a sudden he hasn't talked to me in 2 months, hasn't texted or called me in 2 months. He's acting shitty towards me. The reason is unknown, I am seriously trying to figure out what I did wrong, and I can't think of anything, cause everything was going good! But yeah I understand why one would be shy, and want to do that cause they don't know how to approach her etc. Thank you for commenting! :)))

[Shockerr]

oh wow that sounds very awkward.. But stop pushing it and when you see him don't even look at him or say a word a to him. He will probably say something stupid like " ohh you don't say hi no more" <--- I do this sometimes lol

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaha! Yeah, I think he's ridiculous, and I am not going to waste my time on him, so I probably won't say hi to him. Haha, thanks! :)))

[SüßeJäger]

Honestly, I don't think if a guy liked you he would do that. I cannot imagine me ever doing that to a girl I liked. I hope Im wrong but that's my gut feeling.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah he said I friendzoned him and ever since then he has acted distant and weird, I can tell he doesn't like me.

[SüßeJäger]

He sounds like he did like you then got mad after you friendzoned him. He prob still cares about you but not like a gf

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, I just think he wants nothing to do with me, and it hurts me a lot cause I have been a really good friend to him, and he just throws me out of his life like that? It hurts a lot. Thanks.

[SüßeJäger]

Ya Im sure it does hurt, Im sorry. I think I would just get ahold of him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you are treating me like this and I don't know why and it hurts me. Why are you treating me like this? Tell him you really like him and care about him and it hurts you how he is treating you. Maybe you can at least get an answer if nothing else and then you will know. You really have nothing to lose at this point.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, you're right! But unfortunately he won't tell me. I know him so well that he will just lie to me and something to pacify me cause he's that type of person. I won't know how he truly feels, so instead he's doing this shit where he just acts shitty towards me I guess so I can get the hint that he wants me out of his life. If I go to him I will be more confused than anything, so that is pretty much useless. Thank you.

[SüßeJäger]

oh I see. I don't understand people that are so difficult and disrespectful.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah neither can I, my friend. I was tricked and used, and he didn't obviously value the friendship like how I did. Well he won't find anyone that did the things I did for him, so he's stupid to throw away a loyal, strong friendship. I am just deeply saddened by this and feel hurt and used, and feel tricked too, cause I thought this whole time we were always going to be friends, and I thought our feelings were mutual, and our friendship was strong. But I guess I am wrong. :'(

[SüßeJäger]

awww sorry ^hug^ well Im still your friend no matter what :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww, lol! Thanks! *bear hugs* haha! :)))

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I'm your friend too! I am everybody's friend, I love people a lot, so it breaks my heart that I have someone that was called a "friend" want nothing to do with me. But thank you, and you will always have a friend in me! :))

[SüßeJäger]

*bear hug* hope you feel even just a little better. I know it will not help anything now but he's not worthy of you anyway. You seem to be loyal and just a really decent person so there's better for you :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Thank you! :)))

[SüßeJäger]

I know how you feel, it does hurt, I've been there too. I think loyalty is one of the best things a person can be. I have a soft spot for all you crazy girls. Ill be your friend too. :)

[bh6676r942]

Well it is very possible when any one is crushing regardless of gender they get nervous and numb around the person on whom they are crushing so yes what you suggest kind of makes sense I think you should try talking to him about it

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I know I should, but I am uncomfortable to do that. He always said how much he liked and loved me, and we were always there for each other. Now all of a sudden he's acting distant and weird, and it seems like he doesn't want anything to do with me. It hurts me a lot too that he didn't even remember my number when we would talk a lot and text a lot, so I don't know how he would forget my number, but I am just upset that out of nowhere he seems to not want anything to do with me. But yeah you have valid points, thanks.

[AmongTheApples]

I read your reply, and yes, if a guy feels friend zoned, then he will distance himself from her, even if he does like her.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Why is that though? I mean wouldn't the guy look at the friendship and see how strong the friendship is? Like why throw away a loyal friendship? Nobody did what I did for him. I mean there are a ton of guys I am friends with, and I have feelings for them, but some fo them friendzoned me, but I look at the friendship and see how great the friendship is, so I am still friends with the guys that I have feelings for. But thanks for commenting!

[AmongTheApples]

You're welcome, and it depends on the situation. It's generally for reasons that you probably wouldn't understand or agree with—because you can't relate to it. If we really like a girl, we'll remain friends, but we'll never be close friends with them again.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I see! Thank you!

[AmongTheApples]

You're welcome :). So, for my own curiosity, did you like him or just see him as a friend?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I was confused about him, I was back and forth. I am a conflicted person when it comes to relationships and what not. I have a ton of guy friends, and a lot of them friendzoned me, and I was col with it, even though I wanted it to go further, I looked at the friendship and thought that was good enough. But yeah I guess you can say I saw him more than a friend.

[AmongTheApples]

I understand. Situations can be hard to read, and the more time that passes, the harder it is to tell. ( by the way , I couldn't help but notice your picture and you have truly beautiful eyes).

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Aww! Thank you so much! I truly appreciate that comment! :))) <3

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I was actually just told on my other question that I need to get over myself and that I am a 6 at best, when the question wasn't about my looks, so I don't even know why that guy rated me, when that wasn't what I was even asking, hahahaha. But thank you! :)

[AmongTheApples]

You're very welcome, and believe me, you are NO 6! :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

hahaaha! Thanks! But I think I am about a 5, seriously, but yeah, I will stop that. Haha! :))

[AmongTheApples]

Lol yeah, stop it. You are no 5 :-D. Now, granted, I'm only going off of one picture, but you're at least an 8 ;)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Aww! :) Thank you! You are too sweet! :))

[AmongTheApples]

Nah, you're just too cute! ;)

[KhaysunDei]

That's sooo stupid if he/she does that... what a great way to ruin a relationship, anyways, i really think he's into you if he does that nonsense, but just tell him to stop because it's annoying and not cool

[BrunetteBabe1005]

lol, well I worded the question wrong and I meant to say "When a guy feels friendzoned will he distance himself form the girl?" Cause ever since he thought I friendzoned him is when he distance himself from me. He just seems like he wants nothing to do with me, and I don't know if in a subtle way he's trying to tell me he wants me out of his life? It's bizarre, and I know if I go to him about it, he will just lie to me about it and he'll say something to pacify me. I just don't know what to do.

[KhaysunDei]

hmmm.. intersting, i asked a similar question "how do u get out of the friendzone" and what he did is exactly what i would have done. just be frank with him and explain the situation and try your best to find him a woman, okay?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, thanks. I just think though he wants nothing to do with me, but I see your point, and I am sorry you are friendzoned.

[KhaysunDei]

pfffff, no, i don't think i've ever gotten myself into that nonsense.

[CBaseball2014]

he could especially if y'all were friends first because now there's more pressure on the situation

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I'm sorry what do you mean by "more ppressure on the situation"? Thanks! :)

[CBaseball2014]

well if you were just friends before, there wasn't really any pressure to impress you or whatever, but if he likes you, now there's a lot more pressure on him to be cool around u

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Oh I see! Yeah, that could be it. Makes sense, lol. Thank you! :)))

[CBaseball2014]

good luck!!!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Thanks! :)

[CBaseball2014]

Follow me and help me with my girl problems lol

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Followed! :)

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

No , that means quite the opposite

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I'm sorry I kind worded the question wrong, I guess what I mean is if the guy feels likes he's friendzoned will he distance himself from the girl? Cause we were really close, and we would talk all the time to each other, and then it seemed like after he thought I friendzoned him that is when he distance himself from me and started acting shitty towards me. Thanks.

[RealityCheckTime]

No he wouldn't.