Like a lot of women, I chat with my hairdresser since I’m usually in her chair for a good hour or two every eight weeks. Here are some of the things that have stuck with me over the years.
1. “My mom had chemotherapy, so I shaved my head to show my support. Now people see me and stare, they see all my tattoos and shaved head…some have passed muttering, ‘Dyke.’ People just don’t know who they are talking to when they shout things or stare. They have no idea what someone is going through. I’m not even the one with cancer, and it really hurts."
2. “If you don’t want it to look like your bangs are actually cut, don’t say ‘trim’, say ‘dust’. Trim means I’m going to take off a fraction of the hair, but to dust means I’m going to snip the ends so it looks like dust on your lap – barely cut.”
3. “Julian asked me why he isn’t related to his [step]brother. He said that Tomas told him that they weren’t actually related by blood. The boys used to be so happy now they’re both sad. I said, ‘Listen, some brothers are related by blood, some are related by heart. You and Tomas are related by heart, so you are definitely still brothers.’ Then they were happy again.”
4. “If you can handle it, only wash your hair in tepid water and only every second day. It will keep the colour lasting longer. Hot water in a blasting shower is sure to wash the colour out sooner.”
5. “If you wanted to lose twenty pounds by the time you were forty, don’t feel bad that you haven’t. You have twelve months of being forty to still make that goal.”
6. “Try spraying some hairspray right in to your hands and rub your hands together. Immediately after, rub the ends of your hair or pinch your hair in to place. It allows the hairspray to be concentrated on that one area rather than spraying a whole section of hair.”
7. “I met my husband when I was twenty and he was thirty-five. People said it wouldn’t last. They didn’t like him. Said he was too old for me. I wondered if I should worry about it, or just live my life. We decided to just ignore them and live our lives. Good thing, because after fifteen years together and counting, they are still talking! If I chose to worry, then I would have so far lost fifteen good years of my life.”