I'm not some sort of uber-spiritual body positivity preacher. I don't support the fat acceptance movement and I don't believe being fat is healthy. That being said, I also think a lot of people (men and women) have a lot of misconceptions about beauty and what the other gender finds attractive. This MyTake is based on my own experiences as well as other guys' experiences.
I'd say most women and girls believe that this is the ideal body type, and any deviation from it is a "flaw."
Don't get me wrong, I don't think that model is unattractive. However, I also don't find this picture or this model arousing in the slightest. Many other guys would probably agree with me. Other guys would disagree.
Human bodies are, by nature, imperfect. Imperfection is normal and healthy. Some people carry more fat on their waist. Others, on their hips. Some people have crooked teeth. Some have large foreheads. This does not make you unattractive.
Conventionally, these are the features seen in magazines that a lot of women believe are the ideal standard
-smooth, silky skin
-not too muscular
But plenty of guys don't actually find these things attractive. I'm not going to lie, some guys do find flat stomachs attractive. But many guys don't. Personally, I actually like thin women with a bit of fat on their stomachs (a "softer" body type).
I've heard guys say they like large thighs before, as opposed to thigh gaps. Some guys like harder bodies, some guys like softer bodies. Some guys like muscular bodies.
But ultimately, here's the other thing you have to understand. Guys don't really control their arousal and attraction. It is extremely unlikely that a guy will ONLY be attracted to women of a certain body type or look. From my experience, this isn't the case at all. There's plenty of girls I've liked who didn't have all the features I like.
Many guys like Kate Upton, even though she has a slightly thicker waist.
My point with this MyTake isn't to make some grand statement about tolerating everybody or accepting everybody or anything like that. I made this MyTake to point out how the media kind of gives women the wrong idea. Most guys are not looking for perfection, few guys require perfection, and what guys think is "perfect" differs significantly from guy to guy.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be healthy and happy, but don't obsess over looks. What women fail to realize sometimes is this: Yes, guys notice everything even things you don't want them to notice (the same could be said for women admiring guys.) But guys don't CARE that much. Are guys "visual"- yes, we are. But believe me, most guys do not require or want perfection. Many guys don't find Photoshopped models attractive at all, because their features are unnatural.
And every guy likes something different.
Pretty much everything in this MyTake could be applied to women as well. Women do not require perfection. Women have a wide variety of tastes when it comes to men. I just wrote it from a man's perspective because well... I'm a man.
I don't know, hopefully this helps. I see this sort of thing often and I just wanted to clarify some misconceptions.