Are You Too Ugly?

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Beautiful people know they are beautiful. From the long slide out of the womb, people wax on about how beautiful they are without a hint of sarcasm or pity in their eyes or voices. Even if it wasn't immediate that you were the beautiful baby, when puberty hit, and you got the luck of the draw and blossomed into a beautiful man or woman, trust me, you knew it. People were on you like flies. You got all the invites, you were on every team, you were voted most beautiful in the yearbook, and you got laid. You were and still are hot s--t. And congratulations, right?

Are You Too Ugly?

...but then there is everyone else on the total flip side of that. People don't say it, but you feel it. People don't give you the time of day. They don't flirt with you, they don't pull you to the front of pictures, they don't offer to buy you a drink, they sure as hell don't want to sleep with you, and they don't ask if you've ever thought about seriously (not jokingly) but seriously modeling. You don't fit the arbitrary mold of what is beautiful in your culture or country and you know it.

Are You Too Ugly?

Thus begins your life of comments like, "there are plenty of fish in the sea," or "your day will come," or worse, "you're beautiful on the inside." Who the f--k cares if you're beautiful on the inside?!? No one can get to that yoke if they won't even approach you to talk to you in the first place!!!! That is literally what beautiful people say to ugly people or ugly people say to themselves. And I know right, seems kind of harsh to refer to yourself or someone else as ugly, but if we do it for beautiful people, then of course there is a reverse; it's just most people won't publicly say it to someone because they aren't a-holes or individuals won't admit that to others because it sucks to say those words. And it does.

So what are you supposed to do if life hit you with the ugly stick or the fat stick or the acne stick or just hits you with a stick where people treat you as if you don't exist? What recourse do you have if life has given you lemons, but they're like the rotten ones on sale for 15 cents each?

Two things: the first is accept your status. Let the title wash over you and invade your senses. Be consumed by it, blame the world for it, get mad, get angry, get depressed, live in that cave...for a moment. It sucks and it's hard and its going to be harder for you more so than most that can just wake up, and it seems people accept them and their beautiful faces and bodies for who they are, but after you've done a couple rounds of the pity party, then comes the second.

Are You Too Ugly?

F--k all that! Do you know how someone can lose one of their senses like vision, and then become overly proficient at hearing and smelling things. That's you. You may not have the face or the body, but ugly people...the smart ones anyway, figure ways around this. They become confident and flaunt what they do have even if others sometimes question it or them. People tend to figure if you're that confident with what you do have, there must be something there vs. if they saw you curled up in a ball in a corner sulking and not talking to anyone or looking at anyone. Not saying, oh, gee, confidence is going to just erase what you look like and all your problems, BUT it will help that you're not so overly focused on the physical appearance that you do forget about those other senses and use those to your advantage. Just shut up about your looks for a second and take inventory of what you do have...funny, smart, super nice, friendly...what? And if that's still very little in your mind, then work on improving what you can improve rather then just believing that you can contribute nothing and will never get anything in return from life.

Are You Too Ugly?

The other ways to overcome the slump of the looks are wealth, power, or making over the rest of your body that can be changed--if that's something you feel pressed to do for yourself. I mean let's be real, aside from good looks, and confidence in yourself and your abilities, people are attracted to wealth and power. Find a way to get one or the other or both. Then there is a body that's been made over either with a set of weights, a major make-over, or with a plastic surgeon or all three to get the look you or others want. I'm not writing this to pretend that these are things that don't or won't help like a lot of people do, I'm writing this based on the observations of the real world we live in and what ugly people go through. If you refuse to accept what you are and be confident with just that and work with what you got, then here, step B. There is nothing wrong with self-improvement. People do it all the time, even the beautiful ones, and if you want to be in that realm, then you've got to work for it, or work at it, or both to get what you want.

Sitting around being miserable all day to the best of my knowledge has only made things worse for anybody that does that. You aren't going to improve, you aren't going to get the boy/girlfriend that way, you aren't going to do better in life, just being in a cave of despair. Life sucks, and it's unfair, and it seems more unfair to you, but it is what it is, and you can fight hard against it and try to eek out your own way, or just give up, and I'm telling you, don't give up.

Are You Too Ugly?
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