I just recently saw something on here about all the things men find attractive on women and one of those things was, long hair. That was follwed by the statement of "ladies stop with those pixie cuts". It's statements like those that tick me off. I want to make VERY clear that, I don't care that men have preferences and don't even care that long hair is one of them. It's the attitude that goes with that preference, that bothers me. The attitude that comes off like men expect all woman everywhere to grow their hair long, even if they don't look good that way. That doesn't seem right to me. I think men can admire women with long hair, but can't expect all women to want to have or maintain long hair.
I always think that if I ever met a guy who told me I needed to grow my hair out, my answer would be this "Fine, I'll grow my hair out. However, there's a few stipulations that go with it. You now have to: wash my hair, condition my hair, dry my hair, comb my hair, straighten my hair, style my hair and color my hair. Basically, anything I use to do with my hair, you now have to do since you're the one that wants it long. If you can't follow those guide lines, then I'm going to cut my hair any way I damn well please and if you don't like it,there's the door. I certainly won't stop you". See, I may lack confidence and be insecure but that doesn't mean I appreciate people telling me what to do or how to look. There are some things I just draw the line with and someone telling me how to look, is one of them.
I think it's because of that lack of confidence that I know I need to be happy with who I am and how I look. Because, people will come and go but I'll be stuck with myself forever. So, I better like what I see when I look in the mirror and like who I am, if not it will be a miserable existence. That goes for all people everywhere, we all have to do what's right for us and not just what will attract the opposite gender.
I admit, I have short hair now. But, it's not like I've never had long hair. I had long hair when I was little and it went with the whole cute little girl thing. Then I grew up and long hair no longer suited me. I look better with short hair, it matches my face shape better and it's how I'm happiest. if that makes me unattractive and undatable to men, then so be it. But, people are always telling me "You have to love yourself first. You have to be happy with yourself". Well, this is how I'm happy and I don't plan I ever changing that.
To conclude, I just want men to understand that just because you are attracted to a certain type of woman or have a particular preference, doesn't mean all women have to follow that or would even look good that way. Not all women look good with long hair, it's all depent upon face shape. So, prefer a woman anyway you please. Just don't act like because it's what YOU like, that it's something SHE wants. We all have our own personal style and are entitled to look anyway we please, even if it doesn't put us on the "What attracts a man" list. No one should ever conform to what "type", the opposite gender likes. Attraction should be natural, not forced.
Remember: Her head, her hair and her call!
Thanks, for listening :)