Guys and girls; how would you react if the person you're dating told you that they have a physical disability (which had gone undetected by you until this point). How would you feel? Would you stay in the relationship?
If I had been in the relationship and I didn't even notice it, then what difference would it make once I know? Granted I am bias because I'm half deaf so I do have a physical disability that would go undetected unless I told them. I don't know how many times I've told someone that and they didn't believe me and sometimes I even had to prove it with records because they honestly didn't believe that I was half deaf. The only downside I've seen from telling people is when they say, "what" directly after I told them. I've fallen for that a few times. One time I thought someone said that to mess with me and when I said, "you know what I said" they said, "no, seriously, I didn't hear what you said."
So, would I stay in the relationship? Of course. Especially if it had gone undetected for some time. I just can't comprehend dating someone and everything is fine and then the moment they find that I'm half deaf they leave me. The only difference is that they have knowledge of the disability. It doesn't change who I am as a person and I don't think it should change how they felt about me. If the disability has gone undetected then it clearly doesn't affect the relationship.
First, I would like to say that any relationship that is long term can turn into a caretaker situation. Sooner or later one will begin to die and their partner will be a caretaker.
But I think we all hope that such things do not happen early. Sometimes they do. Being the caretaker is not so bad by itself, but it means that one is doing the job that two shared earlier. If there are children, that is a lot of care taking. Trying to take care of everyone at home and work enough to take care of all the bills is a very big burden. And I have seen many people that could not handle it and left their spouse and kids to fend for themselves. Not pretty and something you cannot imagine anyone doing, but some people just can't handle it.
But, all of that said, there can still be a lot of enjoyment in the lives of two people who share this burden. If the disability is manageable so that the non disabled party can take care of the family, the love is just as great as without the disability.
I would just recommend to someone considering undertaking such a relationship, make sure you don't ignore the facts. It can be a rough road and not all can handle it.
Heck yeah, I'd stay. I found out in the middle of my high school relationship that my gf had a condition that caused occasional seizures. I found this out when we were doing statewide testing and she did this in the middle of the test. I loved her and just planned ahead in case it ever happened when we were together.
I don't think a disability is reason to dump someone. What if he/she was damaged in a fire 10 years down the line or was paralysed in a car crash or had bits removed because of cancer. Would you abandon them? I hope not.. don't go in the deep water unless you can swim, stay in the shallow end it is easier.
A lot of people try to keep there issues out of site for one reason or another they just don't want everyone know basically , but at the same time you shouldn't lie or intentional hide it. May times we feel the issue is more of a issue then it really is to others. if he hasn't noticed a problem maybe bring it up in causal conversation just so he is aware of it, but unless its major or something that may cause issues I shouldn't be a issue its just part of who you are
Yes i would, like wtf man, imagine you being disable and your boyfriend/girlfriend leaves you because of something like that. being disable wasn't their choice and they have to live with it, everybody is special doesn't matter how ugly people think you are or how beautiful you are, in my eyes all of you guys are perfect :)