I need to practice my rejection:/ when they ask i honestly just freeze up and im like 😐 i dont mean to be im just too nice of a person.. If people are around ill always try my best not to make it look like a total rejection so they arnt embarrassed like "yeah maybe we can hang out sometime" but if its one on one I used to say "i have a gf" until it back fired when a girl came up to me that i liked and a girl i had rejected a month earlier and the one i liked asked about us hanging out at her place later and the other girl said "he has a gf" 😭😭 haha so just say your not interested haha.. Um sorry if there is a lot of errors in this i typed it fast and i dont wanna spell or grammer check 😁
Hopefully its a stranger and I would just say I had a girlfriend (if I were single). That's one of the good things about relationships, its an easy out in that situation. In my younger days I gave out a fake number a few times, but in retrospect that's fucked up. I did bump into this girl who used to work for me, and she was drunk, and pretty confessed having a crush on me. She was like "I would be so good to you, I'd cook for you every day...", more hypothetically, not as a plea, haha, she knows I'm taken. I'm not into her physically, and also she's a lot younger and more like a little sister to me. Her personality is through the roof though. Literally the sweetest kid you'd ever hope to meet. So I told her "you're out of my league, Antonia..." Figured it was the nicest way to handle it.
The ire is no such thing as an unattractive person first off. Everyone is attractive in their own way. But if a girl who I don't find attractive asks me out I just be honest and say I don't see you that way if I know them well enough. If a girl asks me out who I don't know I take their number and tell them later if things get intimate or serious. I just don't see the she asked me for my number she based to like me so I will shoot down immediately logic. She could want to be friends which is fine.
"Ew go away" No jk. It doesn't happen to me very often. When it does, I just tell them I'm not interested and that I'm very picky, so they shouldn't take it personally (tho I know that's pretty much impossible). However, that's only if its a "date"; if she just wants to kick it, I'm down.
Only happened to me once. I went along with it, had the date, got to the end and friend zoned her. She was good with it, and I don't think there's anything wrong with getting to know someone on a date.
I'm very unattractive to women and I would never dare to approach a girl I wasn't a thousand percent sure about her liking me. I think it's very rare that ugly people will create huge issues with being to persistent so a simple no might suffice most of the time.
As a guy, it rarely happens. If I'm single, I usually say yes. It takes massive courage for a girl to do the asking. I can go on a date or two if it helps her self-esteem. And it wouldn't be the first time I found an unexpected spark with someone who wasn't conventionally attractive to me.
I personally just politely tell them no because I don't like to play games. I'm not at all interested in leading a guy on to ever thinking I want more than I do. I also personally am not interested in lying to spare feelings, but that doesn't mean I'm outright rude. I'd just say, "I'm sorry, no." or "I'm sorry, I'm not interested".
The way I see it, rejection hurts no matter what words you say. Telling a guy you have a boyfriend (regardless of whether you really have one or not), telling him you like someone else, or telling them flat out no, I am sure that hurts all the same. Some people may take it more personally if there isn't a reason like having a significant other already... but that's not really in my control what they take personally.
I'm unfortunately very bad at saying no and not giving my contact or receiving the guy's =/ What I try to do is control myself, keep breathing, don't widen your eyes, keep smiling... stuff like that. I know it's stupid and it sounds mean told this way, but still a lot to learn >__<
It happened to me once when a guy would just not leave me the hell alone lol. He kept following me and wouldn't stop talking. I refused him politely and told him to please leave me alone.And when he ran into me again he wouldn't stop.he was like "you make my heart raise" or "You look better today" etc. And I was with my friends and we were eating. So he annoyed me and I said " What the hell don't you understand? I don't want to go out with you.So leave me the hell alone" .I am not a mean or rude person usually, but I don't like people getting on my nerves. I usually politetly refuse.And if they ask why not I usually say I have a boyfriend or that I am not interested or that I like someone else. But I don't get asked out very often at all, so these are like 2-3 cases I talked about.
That rarely ever happens to me...I don't get asked out very much at all even before I had a BF...But maybe the few times it did happen was before cell phones were common...so I just told him that my parents are religious and I'm not allowed to socialize with men unsupervised...which is truthful...
Flattered I'm almost 50 so yea it's a good feeling. SwampThing could crawl up though the sewer and be like" hey baby want go to a movie?" I would be like hell yea! Although I am married, I did marry a man who is not what most people would call attractive. I don't pick people by looks.
Politely tell them no.. BUT if they're one of those annoying unattractive guys (you know, the ones that can't take no for an answer), I'd tell them to fuck off.. I've done it before and I will do it again.
It happened once... this one sleazy guy was following me around for 15 minutes while I repeatedly said I wouldn't go out with him (politely as I could) and after that time I just told him "dude, I have a girlfriend, ok? I'm a lesbian, I won't go out with you". It was the one thing that actually worked...