I'm 17 at the moment and I'm not exactly popular. Basically I'm the heavy metal guy in my school and I'm pretty much the only one. However, many people have said I'm very good looking. I never really believed it at first but I've heard it plenty of times now so I don't think I can deny it anymore. I do a lot of sports, especially running and swimming, so I'm very lean but muscular, not super bulky though. I've got a sort of grungy, beach bum, metal head look and I'm also very shy, which I know isn't ideal for girls. However, my friends have said to me, " you're good looking but you need to clean up and maybe you should listen to different music." And " you need to not wear black and stuff and you need to shave your goatee. You look scary." It's been hard to hear, I'll be honest. I don't want to change how I am though, because I feel really comfortable with myself as I am. It seems that girls don't think of my look or anything else is very attractive. So I've started to think that maybe looks don't get you far now unless you dress "well" and you're into the right music, movies, tv shows, etc. I know I've gone on a bit, so sorry :p but do you girls find scruffy guys, or the guy I've sort of described to you here, attractive? I'm worried because although I like how I am, I still don't want to come across as scary :/
Id really appreciate any help here!
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Most Helpful Girl
You dont sound scary you actually sound cute. there's nothing wrong with different or not what everyone expects if thats who u r and dont chase after this girl if she wants to change you. As dr suess says "be who u are and say what u feel because those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter" and thats really true dont change for anyone just be who and if this girl likes u for u then thats great but if not then its her loss. she should take u as u r or watch u as u go. i hope this helped u a bit and if not sorry :) im 16 by the way0