You are talking about having class honey, you are already feminine. First, stop swearing, second don't let people take you down from being a lady, if someone makes you mad dismiss them don't overreact. True exercises helps with gracefulness. Also, in the fashion world you must know what cheap, expensive, and elegant looks like. Also, for me what helped blossom my lady like ways growing up was my first job was at Sear's at 16, at 18 I got a job with Macy's and at 19 I worked at one of the most classiest Miss's store's, The Limited. Having a job at a department store teaches you and forces you to dress and act like a lady. During my stint with Macy's I would go over to the makeup counter to learn what makeup to wear, I also developed a love affair with Estee Lauder makeup and Chanel perfumes. It takes time but getting a job with a major department store helps. Watch older movie's (I was forced to growing up because my parents were older parents). A good place to shop at is Boston Proper online. Take on an older actress persona fake it until you make it.
There are other ways to be feminine than buying into the Beauty Myth, losing weight, cosmetics, clothing, etc. Just see yourself for who you are, improve on things like health via exercise (preferably running, you will develop very nice legs if you do it consistently), and avoid coffee or alcohol if you don't want your face to get red.
Um... Yeah, don't bother with the whole gender notion too much, ideally elegance, politeness, courage, and all these virtuous traits are as much man as they are woman.
Why would you want to change the things that you mentioned? I think they make you cute. Just turn down the swearing, it's not particularly attractive on any gender and you're done! I think you're perfect the way you are
This might be expensive but shop at express or express. com if you don't have a store near you. If you do go in there and ask an associate for help. I worked at express and were trained to specially give customers amazing customer service and find you exactly what your looking for. Plus they have some really great quality clothing. It's expensive but so worth the price oh and amazing coupons and a free reward program which is totally worth it. These clothes are versatile they sell anything from casual to business prof it's a store for fashionable young woman. Oh and amazing clearance sales. Want cheaper clothes check out h&m or forever21 if you want to go even cheaper. For clothing ideas check out Pinterest too great ideas are post there daily. That's where I get my inspiration too :)
I'm the same way but I'm in between girly and a tomboy. Anyone can be feminine if they tried. If I tried to be a girly girl, that wouldn't be me at all, I wouldn't feel like I'm being myself y'know? As far as clothing just go to the mall lol, cute clothes are everywhere. Just a matter of personal preference. And by the way it's always good to fit in with guys, most like that (:
I would suggest that you take some personality quizzes and fashion quizzes that will help you see what style matches your personality. Then based off your results then you can figure out which stores are best for you. Now don't try to change your personality because you want a guy to like you for you so whatever you do don't change.