My ex was gorgeous and I've always had great looking girlfriends. I know looks are less important than personality. I know there is beautiful girls with great personalities out there too. I just don't want to date a girl and not be fully be attracted to her. :/ help please! I don't want to feel like I've downgraded. And not in not shallow.
I think it isn't wrong as long as you also match those standards. Can't be an unattractive man and demand a super attractive woman. Not that you are unattractive :) My point is that you need to offer the same things for the other person. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You can be the hottest man in her eyes, it's all about how each person sees you. I get you, because yes, personality is important, but in the end, we don't fall in love with personality at first sight... physical attraction plays a big role too. After that, personality takes more over.
Am I wrong to want a beautiful girlfriend? Not in my opinion as I don't do right/wrong unless it pertains to harming children and animals.
I find most guys want a beautiful gal which is why I laugh at the notion of a gal giving a guy a chance. Though it may be suited not to have your 'want' turn into 'entitlement' or 'deserving' as well as remain accepting that a beautiful gal may not want to downgrade to you when she can have a handsome guy.
It's not wrong, though it's important to keep track of what you have to offer, otherwise you're going to be very disappointed.
Also I feel like a lot of guys are blinded by good looks, way to willing to oversee other very obvious flaws and when they get burned, whine about how all women are bitches. Don't do that. I do think it's better to put personality over looks, as long as you're attracted to them, but they may not look as perfect as you'd hope
Nope.. :) I want a guy that I find attractive too... otherwise why bother? I mean, you need attraction to motivate you. I don't know how people can be in a relationship with someone they don't find attractive...
Of course not. I mean everyone wants a boyfriend/girlfriend they're absolutely attracted to. This is more a guy's problem than it is girl's - girls can get attracted to someone by liking their personality (discovering someone's personality and finding out it really works with their own) while guys really REALLY focus on the looks most of all and first of all...
You're not wrong to want a beautiful girlfriend but it's important to be realistic because most girls also want a handsome boyfriend. You have to be reasonable with your expectations. Above average girls are only 50% of the female population (Assuming beauty is a standard bell curve) and that's assuming you want her to be anywhere in the right half which, I'm guessing, you want her to be at least 1 standard deviation from the mean which leaves you with 16% of the female population. That's not factoring in the facts that they have to be single, attracted to you and in your age range.
Looks are more important than personality, because looks are observable, while personality cannot always be observed. Looks are a product of health, if a girl looks beautiful, then she's taking good care of her health, at least this is what you can notice if you pay careful attention to how she appears. I guess behaviour is just a part of health, and healthy people tend to have good behaviours.
Yeah, it's wrong. Look, I could sugar coat it, but the fact is you know it's wrong, you just don't care because her looks have a higher priority to you, than doing the right thing or not being a shallow person.