I am a girl in her twenties and I have a bit of self esteem problem (ha, who doesn't?) I've put on a couple extra lbs but seem to carry it off well. My family and friends say it's nothing to be upset about and that I'm fine but I just don't see it that way.
I have a relatively normal face, I guess. People have called me pretty, mind you I don't really see it.
I should warn you that I have a bit of a complex concerning my features seeing as how I was bullied about them as a young child...
Anyway, I am in the process of changing the whole weight thing and was wondering... Is a girl who is kinda soft and kinda down on herself really THAT unattractive?
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Don't be so hard on yourself. Many people go through these things, shooot I have even gone through it. I think what pulled me out of it was not worrying so much about what people were thinking of my looks and my style or my features. I remember about 3 years ago I think I just got tired of feeling so down on myself (I will say I was about 25-26 at the time). I was missing out on life and sitting around feeling sorry for myself and I realized it wasn't cool. It wasn't good to sit around waiting for a chance to invite people to join in on my down time. So I decided to do something about it. I cut my hair off (I didn't go Britney, I got a nice little asymm. cut) and started shopping and doing things that made me feel good. I would pamper myself and soon enough began lifting my head up and showing a side of confidence. It was the best thing for me and a good feeling. The best I can tell you is gather your girls and get out there! Live your life, don't worry so much about your appearance I am sure you are a lovely girl. If you don't believe it, it's impossible for others to see it.
btw I was bullied throughout elementary, junior high and highschool. These people who bullied you were probably haters :o)0