Here's the scoop:
A friend of mine is interested in me, and I am interested in him. The only problem is that I have absolutely zero interest in being physical with him. It's strange; I used to find him attractive, but whenever I am around him these days I feel relieved that I never let anything escalate to a physical level. Bad sign, right? Oddly enough, though, I still "like" him. I want to be around him, and like hanging out with him, but feel like making out, etc. would be super awkward and not enjoyable. I don't know what to do. I want to express that his feelings are reciprocated, but then I don't want to insult him by not wanting to do anything with him because of the lack of attraction. Gah! Should I just keep it strictly platonic?
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Isn't what you describe -- hanging out but no physical contact -- the definition of a platonic friendship? What do you want to change it? I mean, the "more" you might want would be the physical contact, right?... but you don't want it.
So if he is interested in you, and wants more, than you have to be honest with him... doing anything otherwise would be leading him on and wouldn't be fair to him at all.
It may be difficult for him to hear, and you may lose his friendship -- it can be difficult for a guy to be friends with a girl when he is attracted to her.0