I know that a lot of men pursue girls and they're ultimate goal is to get the award and sleep with her. Even the girls whom they genuinely like and are looking to have a serious relationship with. Would you pursue a girl and not have sex in mind?
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What do you mean 'even girls they genuinely like and are looking to have a serious relationship with'? Sexuality is -one of- the key parts in a serious relationship.
Sex isn't an award. If she doesn't have a real desire to be sexual with me, I wouldn't be interested in going on a single date with her. We're friends at most, period.
I didn't think this way as much as a teenager, where my long term goals were vague, but that's because I'd been brainwashed to ignore sex and sort of assume it would magically happen 'later' and work out if you love each other. It does not magically work out if you love each other, and it matters, a lot, and is a core part, for me, in feeling wanted, loved, close and desired.1
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