I know that a lot of men pursue girls and they're ultimate goal is to get the award and sleep with her. Even the girls whom they genuinely like and are looking to have a serious relationship with. Would you pursue a girl and not have sex in mind?
What do you mean 'even girls they genuinely like and are looking to have a serious relationship with'? Sexuality is -one of- the key parts in a serious relationship.
Sex isn't an award. If she doesn't have a real desire to be sexual with me, I wouldn't be interested in going on a single date with her. We're friends at most, period.
I didn't think this way as much as a teenager, where my long term goals were vague, but that's because I'd been brainwashed to ignore sex and sort of assume it would magically happen 'later' and work out if you love each other. It does not magically work out if you love each other, and it matters, a lot, and is a core part, for me, in feeling wanted, loved, close and desired.
Well, sex is not automatically and the only thing in our minds. Not all guys are like that. Sex is still something we expect at some point if the relationship is successful because sex is just part of a relationship. All humans get sexual attraction at some point when relationships get strong after a while. But don't look at it as if the only reason why guys go into relationships is just to get sex. It's not like that.
To be honest probably not. The first thing you know of a person is what you see. Obviously if you like what you see then you go about talking to them, seeing their likes and dislikes to see if you could have more than a friendship. I think the scenario you are talking about would work best in an online/long distance thing. But in a regular setting I have to be attractive.
The ultimate goal of every pursue is getting closer. Getting close and closer leads to sex. Whether u start it in any way it will always reach to sex and if could not reach there it will reach to breakup. If sex is not there in pursuing then nothing seroius is left there.
Some men do. I was just reading this week about a woman who married twice with no pre-marital sex, and got no sex during each marriage either. She desperately wanted to enjoy sex during marriage and was lead to believe that would be the case. After her second divorce, she was still a virgin at 51
No, definitely not. If I'm pursuing her it means I want her, which means also wanting to sleep with her. I think the only situation I would ever consider this was if I lost my penis in an accident and could never have sex again.
It's not that sex is the 'ultimate goal' 'per se' - rather, it's just an intrinsic non-removable 'part of the package' of an overall goal that also includes the non-sex parts of a relationship.
I am pretty sure I would eventually want to have sex with her and expect her to eventually want to have sex with me, it is honestly not an unreasonable expectation either. Vaginal sex is as natural as it gets.
The only way that happens if I didn't have any intentions of going out with her.. and then I hung out with her as friends or what ever and started to develop feelings for her. Then I would just keep it as is.. I mean in that case I'd have spent so much time with her that it wasn't about sex...
There are 2 guys, the ones that would only stay with you if you give him the occasional sex, and then there are guys like me who don't mind as much. I mean sometimes with my old girlfriend I used to just get so tempted to bang her, and she would always turn me on with the things she said, but she never wanted to have sex cos she lost trust in me when I did some bad things :/ I've never actually fucked a girl I've had, although I've had sex with several girls that were at parties... Most guys need sex in the relationship, kissing gets boring after a while, maybe you can at least jerk him off, or suck him off if your really nice. But why not just go for penetration. Its good for you.