Awhile ago, at a college orientation, I had a very pretty roommate who said something like "when you're standing next to an unattractive girl, you just know you are better than her." It was awkward because I'm average looking so at first, I felt like she was targeting me but we got on very well. Was she speaking the truth or was she being shallow? I think she was partially speaking the truth because this type of thinking is prevalent in our society. Attractive women seem to have much more value placed in them. Also, guys, do you do the same thing girls do when meeting other guys? Do you compare looks? If you're an attractive guy and you meet an unattractive guy, do you automatically think you are better or are "one-up" on them?
Wow, what an egotistical woman. I don't see a point in comparing myself to whoever is standing next to me. The reason I say this is because what I excel at she may not...but she may excel at something I am terrible at. There's no point in doing this because you'll always be ahead and behind at the same time. People who feel a need to compare themselves clearly don't have the self esteem they truly want.
I think it is a natural tendency to do that when you are insecure about ureself. People who have a lot of confidence don't do that because they do need to compare someone who does have the nicest clothes on to make there self feel better, they already think they look nice and that is that. People who have true confiedence do not look down on other people because they are comfotable with theresleves. That girl was not confident even though she was pretty or attrative. No matter how attractive you are if you are looking down on other people than you are not confident. Just becuase is not the best looking in the world does not mean you are better than her because you look good, just becuase looks can change. So that girl might come back the next day look the sh*t and you looking like sh*t. It is a cliche to say it really matters what is on the inside but it is true. I know that I'm not unattractive, I think that I'm pretty, but I still have my insecurities. So in my head I compare myself to people that look a mess at that time to make myself feel better, but that is because I stil have my insecurites. But I'm not saying that I am better than them or one-up than them becuase I don't know them. That is bullsh*t and it is wrong do to. But it is nature to say I look better than this person because of ure different tastes and what you think is nice and ugly.
Wow, that's a horrible thing to say. You can't know that you're better than another person simply by looking at them. That's a really vain and shallow approach to life. Only someone who's insecure would feel the need to compare themselves that way. Besides, what's attractive to one person isn't necessarily attractive to another.
I know that you asked for guys to answer, but I kind of wanted to answer anyways. I actually never really pay too much attention to the way other people look, to be honest, so even if I was standing next to someone gorgeous or someone who is described as average or unattractive, it would make no difference to me either way.I wouldn't feel intimidated or better than the person next to me. But sadly, some people do think the way that your roommate does, which I think is a bit silly. It's almost as if they are trying to reassure themselves of something or are trying to make themselves feel better about some sort of insecurity that they have. I don't think attractive people are any better than average ones, because when it comes right down to it, they're all human.
I think she was being shallow. I've thought before that I'm more attractive than other people I know, but it never made me think I was better than them. I would not really want to be friend with someone who thought something like that =/
Society places a lot of value on looks. Attractive people are seen as better or valued more by others. Not by all people, but just shallow people which unfortunately is a lot of people. It might not be outright said, "Oh so-and-so is better, or I'm better than you" but the attitudes are there. But that is all up until you get to know the person.
Personally I don't think I am better than anyone. That is a stupid way of thinking. I think I am fairly attractive compared to who's standing next to me LOL I get insecure and think I'm ugly a lot too. But to think you are better because you're attractive is just awful. Beauty is a blessing but it can also be taken away. God forbid that girl got disfigured in an accident, what would she do then? Attractive people are lucky they hit the genetic lottery, they have no control of their looks so they shouldn't be cocky about it.