I can't cut my hair because my dad's religion and it's down to my butt :(

i just want it to look good . the only time I cut it was in kindergarten when I got glue stuck in it and I got in huge trouble.


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  • i understand that because it's a religious thing it's a sensitive matter and as much as everyone else is telling you that it's your hair and you should do what you want it's not as simple as that as you still have respect for your dad and his religion. I know a lot of sikhs who do cut their hair. do you have any relatives who do? any family friends your dad respect that he would maybe listen to? you can do your own research and find scholars who do accept cutting hair but to a manageable level, this is because in today's society extremely long hair can become a burden in jobs and in hygiene. do your research. if that fails then I think you need to sit down with your dad and explain to him that although you respect his religion you have your own ideas as well. if you practice sikhism yourself point out all the positive ideas and concepts that you have learnt, understood and embraced. explain how by wanting to cut your hair, you feel it's a trivial thing compared to all the other requirements sikhism has such as wearing your bracelet, being a good person going to temple, refraining from alcohol etc. explain that by cutting your hair you are not trying to distance yourself from him or his faith. I think if you have an issue with sikhism as a whole it's best if you didn't bring that up just yet, wait till your 18 when you've done your research and are sure that this faith isn't for you. if you tell him that you gain nothing from sikhism it will hurt him and his faith is so close to his heart and I'm sure you understand that although other people who haven't been brought up by religious parents may not. when you're in a position where you can financially and practically support yourself you can take that risk. also when speaking to your dad, he probably will be quite angry and upset and first and you must be gentle and show him that you respect him and be mature. give it some time and speak to him again, show him you are mature and this is something you believe in as much as he believes in his ideas. be persistent but don't lose your temper or sulk. show him you are serious and hopefully in time he will understand. good luck!


What Guys Said 5

  • Just cut it anyway. Your dad has to realize that he can't force you to be the same religion as him. You have the right to do whatever you want with your hair.

  • so the women in your dads religion drag their hair around for the rest of their life?

  • What religion prevents you from getting your hair cut?

  • it's your hair not his so it shouldn't really matter what he thinks about it if you cut it. if you don't practice the same religion as him then it shouldn't matter. either way you need to do what's comfortable for you. if you think your hair needs to be cut shorter then by all means go ahead and do it regardless what he thinks or says. it's not a law and you won't be going to hell. plus what religion doesn't allow a girl to cut her hair? :P

    • Holliness and girls can't wear makeup or wear pants or pearce their ears and stuff but iv only not pearced my ears and cut my hair. the rest of the crap I ignore :)

  • down to your butt!?

    thats too much if I was you id tell my dad how I felt


What Girls Said 10

  • Are you the same religion as your dad? Do you agree with his beliefs? I know he might get mad at you, but I think you should cut it anyway. Your dad can't force you to share all of his beliefs, eventually you'll grow up and leave home anyway, so he should get used to it.

  • If you know what you want to do with your hair and sure about cutting it nothing can stop you really.

    Is it your dads' hair or yours, you are the one who living with it not him and than it goes far

    beyond all that religion - if you don't feel good and want to do something about it - it's your choice

    and right.

    If you tried to talk to your dad about it and it didn't help than do something about it anyway.

    By getting you hair done as you wish you'll show you have some guts to speak out,

    and if your look makes you more happy than why should any dad be making trouble out of it.

  • What religion is that?

    • Holliness :(

    • Im a history major how come I've never heard of this!

  • get scissors. cut it a little longer than you really want it. then go to a hair salon and get it 'fixed'. taa-daa! good luck, my mom didn't want me to get mine cut, but I had someone take me and I 'surprised' her one day.. with over 1 foot of hair cut off! =D good luck!

  • My sister actually had a guy friend in college who couldn't cut his hair because of his religion.

    But, do you practice the same religion as him?

    If you don't, you should talk to him about how you would like to cut it.

    I honestly don't know how to make it look good. Sorry.

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