is there any shallow peeps out there?
...well I am one of them, and hate how I am because I feel like I could've already met my "soul mate" if I hadn't turned a bunch of guys down who weren't exactly my "type"...ugh
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I was shallow from 10-20ish but after a while, you start to appreciate different things in your mate that are more important than looks.
I'm glad you realize this about yourself and it's okay to admit that you are "shallow." It's cliche to say that you are into personality and that's what really matters... which most people are talking out of their asses, especially young people.
So how / when does this mood change?
I remember when I was first into cars, all I cared about was how much power I could make and how many cars I can beat. I wanted the car to look tight and run fast.
After about 3 years of working on cars, you develop a different appreciation and acceptance as to what's a comfortable hp and what your car is really about. So as I learned and explored more about cars, I got over the showy aspect and the "I WANT HP RAOWRRR."
I know my analogy is a bit male orientated but you get the gist (I hope). As you get older and continue to be around ugly/hot/average people, you'll realize what people mean by personality making a person more attractive.
A prime example of this was a girl I met in my class, she was a bit chubby but dressed well and casual.. a 5 as I would rate her. However as I began to talk to her more, she was smart, down to earth, friendly and one day in class it dawned on me, " wow, I find this girl very attractive." She had a boyfriend so I didn't cross any boundaries but that was my apiffany (so far off spell check can't find it) when I realize that I can like a girl outside of my initial attraction level.
So just know, over time your taste will change but don't date people based on "i should date this guy... and not him." Make mistakes now and learn from them, or else you'll be 35 thinking "i wonder what it would be like to date those guys I always wanted to."