My boyfriend & I (of 8 months. but we've known each other for more than a year) because I wanted to be married & he said he's not looking for a "wife" right now... I noticed that every time I open up topic on marriage that it freaks him out usually will try to avoid the discussions. I broke up because I feel like he's not really sincere, serious or that he loves me enough to marry me. I was devastated by my decision.. I was miserable,so depressed that I wanted him back because I realized how much I love him; but part of me was saying to just let go & move on because he just coudnt commit in that level. My boyfriend is very caring & we had good times together.. I am very very heart broken... I WANT him back.. what will I do? did I PUSHED him too much?
Your over 35, ready to marry and willing to start your own family. This man, obviously didn't want that. He wanted his "freedom", his space, and things the way he liked them. If he is also near your age, then I say he only a child, unwilling to accept the commitment and responsibility of marriage.
So ask yourself, "Don't I deserve more than that"? Your ex boyfriend, only did enough to get buy. What you want, is someone more. So please don't sulk and go back to him, giving in to a love with conditions.
Look, it suck and you will hurt for a while but if you want to be married and he does not then I would say that that is a deal breaker. You do not want to push anyone into marriage so I think that yo did the right thing. Give yourself a little time to heal and then start looking for the right person for you. Good luck.
it hurts yes, but he already let you know that he's not ready, and that doesn't mean that he ever will be.
you shouldn't stick around waiting, you should be with someone who wants the same thing that you do. be strong and remember that he wouldn't have been able to give you what you want and staying would've only caused you more heartache
No,it seems like you did the right thing...as much as it hurts you both want different things.
You will not be satisfied in the relationship and he will not be able to give you as much as you want if its like that.
I think youve been very honest with yourself and that youve made a brave choice-sometimes the right thing to do is also the hardest,and so many people settle for less then they want and it never works out.
Ultimately,you just want different things,and your being true to yourself.
I would not have broken up with him if you love him BUT I definately would have told him that you are not going to be exclusive with him if he is not ready to be married. I would date, go out to lunch, coffee, etc and start getting out and staying busy to keep my mind off him. You should not close off other possible better options while he makes up his mind on when he thinks the right time to to be married is. I would be very sweet and give very little details on your life if he contacts you. Don't sit and wait on "not looking for a wife right now". Good luck!