Guys, gals, I need some help. I was talking with this guy who I KNOW liked me and I thought he was a sweetheart. I was just being myself and when he would dig for complements, I would give HONEST complements that were sweet - not sexy or otherwise loaded. (Like how pretty I thought his eyes were and how intelligent he struck me as being, etc.)
Suddenly this guy seems certain that I'm a sure thing or a flirt or something and he's cooled the jets. He still talks to me every chance he gets but it's made me shy away from him a bit. I feel like I can't joke and tease because he'll take it the wrong way or assume I flirt with everyone. I honestly don't, I just know how to turn on the charm when I want to. Now I'm afraid I come across as being too serious or moody. He recently laughed while another guy teased me about something that I fear might be true about myself and it hurt my feelings a bit. No harm was meant of course, it was just something easy to tease me about. Still, I feel like his behavior is making me loose my sense of humor when I want the opposite thing to happen! I want to flatter him, not frustrate him!
I don't like to play games. I'm much to transparent for that. He would know what I was doing any ways. I just want to make sure I keep this guy intrigued. Gentlemen, your advice please! How do I make him do a mental 180 and realize I'm not a flirt and he's a special friend?
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You seem very straightforward, otherwise I wouldn't recommend this: tell him you like him, and that therefore, you're going on a proper date with him. Tell him you hope it all works out, and wish yourself luck.
One tip: keep the first few dates light. First dates are to find out whether to have second dates, nothing more.
Another: until you two "officially" commit, he's not obligated to date you exclusively. Not only does saying ease a little tension in case he's looking, but it puts major points in your Sanity column.
This relationships needs a very big push, and it's not going to come from him.1