So the other day my girlfriend and I were talking about a few things. One of those things that came up was that I'm turning 35 next week. She was like; maybe you should think about losing the faded jeans and sneakers look and change to a more "mature" wardrobe. Basically, a bit more baggy, darker more polished pants, button up shirts. You think she's right? Or is age just a number? It got me thinking. :\ Maybe I just don't want to accept I'm getting old. Ha.
yeah ditch them, you're at that point
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nah, you have some time yet
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age is a #
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ditch them regardless of age, that style sucks anyway
I've been wearing the same types of outfits I have since my early twenties. I'm approaching 30 and I'm also thinking about this. I can't see myself wearing mommy looking or old lady clothes. I have a youthful figure and face. It really depends on how you look. I think you should try to mix it up. Get a few mature outfits but let them be you !
I just kind of revamped my wardrobe the last few months. It's dressier (these are mostly work/nightlife clothes, not casual), but I still managed to avoid the old guy look. Invest in a few sportcoats, those are huge to have if you want to class it up, and you can still wear most of them with a dark pair of jeans (not faded) and a casual-ish (I'd recommend a slip-on loafer) dress shoe. The key is your shirt. If you have a tweed jacket with suede elbow patches and wear a solid or traditional patterned dress shirt, you're going to make yourself look old. I want my wardrobe to say "I'm a grown-ass man... but I'm still down to party.", haha. I have a lot of solid colored sportcoats, in gray, navy, light blue... so I wear a fun shirt underneath to make it pop.
Here are some pics. Excuse some of the dumb faces, i was sending these to the homey @Kris85 😜
Just a few examples. I thought it would be uncomfortable to wear, but it's not, and they way people treat is night and day, haha. The key is confidence. Own what you're wearing. It's nice going into somewhere and being far and away the best dressed person in a sea of scrubs, haha.
Although it's a young person's look, that doesn't mean you can't wear them.
Put it this way - a girl with a mini skirt.
Everyone accepts it's a sexy thing for a 20 something year old to wear. And a rule of thumb is stop at 30-35. But, there are women out there who still look amazing, better than a 20 yr old, in a mini skirt. Just watch Desperate Housewives.
What I'm saying is although there's an "age guideline" that doesn't mean it doesn't look good on you. It doesn't mean you're "done" yet.
Dress how you want and how you are comfortable and what looks good.
If your girlfriend said it, she probably wants to see you in a little bit more of a serious look. Not saying for all of the time, but a nice T-shirt and a good fitting boot cut pair of jeans with no holes or fading can look nice. Even WITH your sneakers. That said dress however you want. I've come to realize that people will judge you based on how look, so if you look at a photo of yourself and try to be objective and be honest with yourself on your first impression, it helps. I have to do this everyday. I'm 23, I'm a parent, I look very young and I am a beauty professional. So I want to try to look my age, but still fun. Clothes don't have an age. 30s are the 20s, do what you want. Maybe when you hit 40/45 it will bug you, and if it doesn't, who cares. My dad is still wearing his faded jeans and sneakers with his band hoodies and he's in his 50s :P
My mom tells me often that I need to dress more mature. The thing is, I don't dress too young for my age. She tried to get me to wear stuff that her and her mom wear. Ummm... no, thanks. Her and I have never seen eye-to-eye when it came to clothing. I say, wear whatever you like. I know guys in their early 40s that dress the way you do and they look fine in their clothes. Maybe rock the sexy George Clooney look in your mid to late 40s and on.
Well, the way you fame the question and the poll left no room for you to be yourself and not beat yourself up. I think you should only change your clothing if you want to. Yes in. Relationship you might have to compromise but she met you this way and the way you dressed didn't matter when dated her. I think you should only change dress if you feel like it stoping you form reaching your goals in life, and not because you woman says so. Your reasoning has be for yourself. Yum us happy with your life and yourself and can't let a woman dominate you or even the society for that matter. It doesn't matter what you wear is not in fashion. It matters who are as a person.
If she gives you crap tell her this is who you are as a man. And Stay firm.
Only do things that you feel living with integrity.
by the way you are not getting old. To me 60 and above is old, plus people are living longer and healthier
Your age doesn't matter. You can have any style you want. But you have to know how to adjust your style to dress appropriately for any given situation. I mean, shredded jeans, sneakers and a leather jacket are ok to go to a bar but not to work.
When i met my boyfriend he liked wearing faded jeans and hip-hop type of t-shirts. He was 37 at the time and continued this style until he was around 38 out of his own volition. That's key. Didn't happen overnight though.
So, I'd say where what you feel like that's appropriate.
No, she's not right. I think if YOU want to change your wardrobe you should do it, but don't do it because your girlfriend told you to. Age really is just a number and you have the right to dress however you like. Besides, if you were to start dressing the way she suggested, do you think you'd be happy that way? If the answer is no, then keep dressing the way you do.
I think you style should match your personality, not your age. Like, if you are 15 and you feel good in a suit, go with a suit. If you are 50 and you like dressing like a teen, dress like a teen. Who has to care?
Well you can try it, you might juat like it but I say wear what you like man. Are you a button up dark pants kind of a guy? If you end up hating the new look then just stay with what you got but still be open to option from the girlfriend. Girls love to dress their man. I know i do but only if he feels comfortable about it.
It depends on the occasion and where you are going. If it's casual, the jeans/t-shirt/sneakers look can last a lifetime probably. But if you go out on a date or event, maybe a button shirt over the t-shirt and some dark jeans would be ok? The fancier "nicer" the situation, the more likely I guess I would wear tailored pants and button up shirts. If that makes sense. I would keep your lady's opinion in mind while still being comfortable with your own style.
Age is just a number, lol. But maybe she wants to see you wear something new! There's nothing wrong with that, I tell my boyfriend to wear different things all time, but not because I don't like his style. I don't know maybe your girlfriend wants a more mature-looking man?
Reading through all the comments and the consensus seems to be:
- wear what you want - consider making smart additions to your wardrobe. - dress appropriately for the circumstance - wear clothes that flatter you AND - consider getting a new girlfriend if she persists in treating you like her personal Ken Doll
It depends on what you are doing. If you are going out I think dressing up a little more would be a good idea. She clearly wants you to dress up for her, just like guys sometimes want girls to dress up and look pretty for us. If you are just lounging around the house though then I think jeans and sneakers are fine. I think you should consider meeting her part way on this.
There are definitely styles I wouldn't really wear now based on my age. But I wear jeans and hoodies, i'll wear jeans with a buttoned shirt though not that often, but I am a little more now (casually, will wear that to work sometimes as I am today, along with a blazer). I don't really casually wear sneakers and haven't in a while, about twice a week i consider buying some to wear casually some asics or something, and i'm always on the fence. I just don't like the style much tbh, but I see guys doing it who are waaay older.
I'd ditch the prefaded jeans, buy raw denim, if you want to get fades yourself go for it.
It's tough man, i feel like we're between guys who are wearing the same thing they did in high school and never grew up, and the alternative looks like I'm a lawyer heading off to my $3 million cottage. Which I don't have. Seems hard to find something in between.
I'm also 35. I am still young looking (people think I'm 26-27ish)
My usual look for going out for the evening is a pair of nice jeans (not to baggy), a pair of New Balance shoes that are completely black but also very comfortable, and a casual shirt from Bluenotes or Old Navy. I get complimented on my clothes. Basically like the dude on the far left in this picture:
If it's more casual (like beer and wings, or slumming around, or whatever) then sneakers, crappier baggier jeans, and a t-shirt.
I can scrub myself up extremely well and put on a suit and tie and the whole nine yards - but that's for special occasions. That's the key here: knowing when to go for it. Don't let her pressure you into suffering in the name of fashion.
I would wear what your comfortable with she should accept the way you dress now , why make you spend money on clothes that after you wear you may not be happy my cousin is age 57 and she still dresses like a hippy and no one can change her she has her own style so that's it and she even wears her hair long yet down her back.
I think you should give it a shot and add into your wardrobe some basics you know take it slowly. Nobody changes wardrobe in a day. Per say consider getting some boots like dessert boots, fitted bottom downs, leather sneakers, nice bomber jackets l, Henley shirts, for jeans get light wash or dark wash. It can be a stresful process but can be fun. Go to effortlessgent. com if you want.
I don't think your wardrobe needs a complete makeover. I would compromise by keeping some of current items for some occasions while going shopping with her and picking out some new things for others. You never know, you may just find some new styles or items that you like.
Do not base your wardrobe on the opinions of others. Dress for yourself, not because some chick thinks it doesn't look good. If girls are allowed to dress for themselves, so are men. Keep rocking them Faded Glories!
What? LOL. I'm slightly older than you and I still wear surfing t shirts, boardies, jeans, sneakers etc etc. And I still look damn good and feel good in them too even if I say so myself :P I still get looks from younger girls in their 20's. There's no time limit when to throw your clothes away. If you like it then wear it. You don't suddenly wake up one day and say "hey I think it's time to be an old man now" No one believes my age anyway. I feel fit and energetic. I refuse to grow old quickly. Stay young! It's great!