Okay so I am average height but a bigger guy. Big chest, a bit of a belly, and a round face. I am healthy, never been called ugly, and girls usually refer to me as cute. I have an awesome personality and it's landed me some attractive girlfriends in the past. But now in my mid 20's- I notice people aren't like that anymore. It all seems to be about appearance. For example, I've had a major crush on my best girl friend basically my whole life. But she's with this Hollister-looking guy who's a total jerk to her. Lies, cheats, speaks to her really disrespectfully, etc. My question is- why wouldn't a girl/woman want someone like me who could use a little work physically but is a great person and would treat her like gold? As oppose to a model-like jerk who's never going to change?
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Honestly, you are completely misjudging an entire species of humans because of a few bad experiences. People see what they want to see. If it's easier for you to think girls are only superficial (which, I can tell you plenty of stories about guys that won't even talk to a girl if they aren't attracted to her), you are missing the bigger picture. Don't waste your time being in love with a girl you can't have. If she's with someone else, let it go. Just because he looks like a model doesn't mean there isn't something else she's seeing in him you don't know about, no matter how it appears on the surface. There's always room for improvement. A lot of the time if a guy isn't taking care of himself, it's going to reflect in a girl's eyes not because he isn't a superficial ideal, but perhaps because of what message that conveys. If he isn't willing to do the personal work or make the effort, why should she or anyone else? If you think you could use some shaping up, do it. But do it for you, not for someone else. Work on creating the person you want to see and be, and the universe will work with you. If someone isn't seeing you for what you are, you either have to make more of an effort and step it up or find someone who is willing to take you as is.0