Most Helpful Guy
You were right - She was just being a spoilt drama queen - I wouldn't take that crap from someone.0
Most Helpful Girl
No, I think she's being way too stubborn. I also don't see the need to stand out in SUCH a way on your birthday. Usually, if you're just more dressed up in general, you'll be standing out anyway.
If she continues to act like this, just say you can't come. That's what I'd do. She'll learn then. Your birthday doesn't give you a free pass to be unreasonable0