She was diagnosed with an allergy to the sun when she was a kid -ik sounds bullshit but it's real- so she always wears long sleeves and tights or pants and biker gloves which means I never get to see any cleavage when we're outside and she never wears any of those cute cutoff shorts or bikinis or even goes to the beach at all. and forget about crop tops and booty shorts! I just really want to show off her body to my friends so they know I scored. Am I allowed to be upset about it that she never shows skin? Even when we're out at night or just hanging at friends she won't because she's grown accustomed to covering up. Am I allowed to be pissed and try to get her to wear more revealing clothing when we're going out at night or just chilling with friends? No matter how many times I tell her I want her to she just won't. But shouldn't I have a little say?
- You're right, you should have say in her wardrobe. I'd be pissed too.Vote A
- You're wrong, you shouldn't have say in her wardrobe but I'd be pissed too.Vote B
- You're right you should have say in her wardrobe, but I wouldn't be pissed if it were me.Vote C
- You're wrong you shouldn't have say in her wardrobe and have no right to be pissed.Vote D
Most Helpful Girl
Ok this has nothing to do with the sun, the girl is just very modest and that bothers you. It's also possible she has scars she doesn't want you to see. I would sooner bet that's it.
You can try to force this, but clothes are a big part of how we present ourselves to other people. A piece of our identity. If you intrude on her sense of individuality without her genuinely wanting to go along with it, and you only make her feel fake and not good enough in the form she likes herself in, she may grow to hate you for it. Especially if there is some moral/emotional appreciation of modesty within her. In that case you should really fuck off. Some guys and girls really aren't meant for one another.
But if you just want to appreciate her looks because you love her and she is torturing you by refusing to show skin to you, you need to appeal to her with your desires in an intimate loving sense. "I want to see you. I want to be able to appreciate your beauty." blah, blah...
You can get her to try something out for your sake and if she really doesn't like it, it's ok.
But if this truly about you needing intimacy.
As far as your friends go... "I want to show you off, I want everyone to know I scored." That is not about maintaining your relationship, but about your pride. And while I am all for making my guy's friends jealous of him, because I want to make him happy, if a girl is not ok with being your trophy, forcing her to act like one to make you happy is incredibly cruel.
Just like one girl may enjoy swinging in with her husband, but if that man remarried and married a woman who could never engage in something like that, forcing it on her just to meet his need is incredibly cruel.
If social status and appearances matter to you so much and her modesty does to her too, just walk away. Don't waste her time.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Your girlfriend is allergic. You are as reasonable as bitching to your friend about how they are assholes for not trying your grandmother's secret peanut pie recipe when your friend is lethally allergic to peanuts.
You clearly don't respect her anyways, you only have right to be pissed if she doesn't show any skin for you at night in your bedroom. Otherwise, you are absolutely unreasonable in your demand. That, and honestly, do you think she enjoys that she literally CANNOT go to the beach like "any other teen/girl/person" as she would get sick? Or you never really thought about it at all, because you clearly don't care about her at all beyond "scoring in front of your friends". I voted D).7
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