I am a mix of being Arab and Greek. I get a lot of compliments that I am beautiful, but why do I feel like I am not because I am not white/blonde hair with blue eyes? I feel so ugly sometimes and I don't know why. I dyed my hair blonde because I felt like I didn't look good but everyone says I'm being crazy.
I'm not trying to get people to compliment me by saying this because I truly feel sometimes that I am not good looking.
Do other people feel like this? I don't get why I feel this way. Is it because the American culture projects this idea that the true beauty is blonde hair with blue eyes? Ever since I dyed my hair blonde I've been wanting blue contacts even though I don't wear glasses. Do you think I'm feeling this insecure because of what society thinks is beautiful?
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As Solomon said, "Vanity, vanity, all is vanity". If left to our own devices, we all want what we can't have, to the absurd extent of not appreciating what we do have. Women with straight hair want curly hair, women with curly, straight. Black women want lighter skin, white women sit in the sun all day in order to get darker skin. Beauty is far more versatile than we give it credit for. For instance, I'm a 54-year-old white guy with hazel eyes, and to me, the most beautiful woman in the world has brown skin, black hair, and brown eyes. Stop overanalyzing yourself and start living the life you've been given, as there will come a day when you'll wish you had. And when that happens, you'll have only bitter regrets.5