Just curious. This guy I work with has a very very hard time getting a date. He met a girl at a wedding and they hit it off, she gave him her number, yet doesn't want to go on a date with him now.
He's a really nice guy, never seems too negative about things, and all of his friends who are women ask him how he can still be single. Yet when he asks them after that they say no.
He is overweight, and I guess if you didn't know him you'd think he is a bit of a nerd, for lack of a better word. He can be a bit however he's really nice and witty. I feel bad for him because he's been single for soo long and is so much better than a lot of guys I see with girlfriends
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Whether we like it or not, looks do matter. Love typically begins as lust or attraction, then grows into something else. Sure, you can become friends then fall in love, but that friend zone is hard to hop out of. That said, I am currently attracted to someone who is not even remotely my type. I have never been able to be attracted to overweight people simply because it means their lifestyle is probably sedentary and more focused on food than mine, which is a turnoff to me. BUT, right now I am more attracted to a man than I have ever been-- and he is overweight and losing his hair... So, go figure. You never know.
I think for women, much of our attraction can be attributed to men's body language and self-image too. Even more important than looks for me is confidence. If a man knows that he's "the man," I'm far more likely to agree with him ;) Your friend probably comes off as less confident and more desperate, which is always a turnoff to women.2