Well, I'm 17 years old. I have never had a girlfriend, have never kissed a girl, none of that stuff. A lot of kids at school tell me that I'm going to die alone and I'm never going to have a girlfriend because I'm too ugly. They often call me the ugliest kid in school, and they pick on me often for this. I have believed this for two years, believed that I'm too hideously ugly to ever get a girlfriend.
I can't even look at myself in the mirror without cringing, how can I expect someone to actually date me?
I don't like to go out in public anymore because I can feel people staring at me, and I don't like people to see my face if I have to be physically there with them.
But I just want to ask some people who have no reason to lie to me, before I seal my fate as a person who will die alone.
I have two pictures:
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May I suggest that you read:
A Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, and also
I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
I know what you really want is a girlfriend. You want to belong, and have someone who you can call your own. But while your self-esteem is this low, your chance of being able to create a good relationship is pretty low (notice I didn’t say your chance of getting a good girl are low, even if you get a brilliant girl, you’ll still be half the relationship) So my point is, you’re not ready. Because if you date a girl now, you’ll hang all your self esteem on her, and no person can support another that way. You have to get your self worth from somewhere else. (I think God is a good place to start, that and having a purpose in you life). Anyway, the second book “I kissed dating goodbye” has a lot to say about why teen dating (defined loosely as anyone dating who is not prepared to marry) is not all its cracked up to be. Just think of your last year in high school as boot camp. You got just one more year to figure out the purpose of your life, and to start making something of it. When you do that you’ll walk shoulders back, head high, and you’ll loose that sad look around your mouth and eyes. Hit the gym too. (muscles build self-confidence) You probably won’t be mister confidence in college, but you’ll be able to trick everyone into thinking you had a completely normal high school experience. No one will suspect you had it this hard. They’ll just accept you as a normal guy. Which, you are. You are a normal looking person (which I might add…most people including me are…that’s why its normal). You can be anywhere from a 4-9 (on a scale 1-10) depending on if you wear dumpy cloths, walk head down shoulders curved, and don’t meet anyone eyes, and mumble, compared to if you dress nice, smell good (some men’s body wash is fine), are polite, smile, crack a joke, and are a gentleman (hold the door, carry her stuff), are reasonably fit/athletic. I dunno, maybe you want some bimbo bar chick, being nice probably won’t get her. But most girls are just normal girls. They’re not fabulous looking, but they’re awfully pretty when they try. I really don’t want to give the impression I’m saying you’re just average looking so you’ll have to settle for average. I’m saying congrats! You look just as good as everyone else, your bone structure, general lack of acne, and features are right up there with the rest of everyone else, therefore you have every right to expect the same as everyone else. A sweet girl who wishes she were maybe a size or two smaller, but can’t seem to loose the weight because she loves to go on dates to the ice-cream parlor with her boyfriend – YOU! There’s a girl out there for you, but she needs a man, you can’t come to her afraid of what some boys at school are predicting about your future married life. As if they new. Idiots.